Hi charlotteejoan, I am an older woman lost my husband a year ago and started dating 6 months ago and the first man I dated gave me herpes 1 genital. I was so upset I didn't realize what's going on and then single world in dating after being married for 43 years with my husband. I made a mistake and of course that relationship was over. Then I started dating the new then and he was wanted to to have sex and I didn't tell him that I had herpes 1 after about 2 months 3 months I decided to tell him and he dropped me like a hot potato. I was so upset and he no longer wanted to see me he didn't really say anything just never call me never emailed me anymore and just said it was over. I just don't know what to do I guess I could just give up on the whole dating scene and be alone for the rest of my life or I could try again and this time be more careful is stablished longer friendship and then if the sexual part comes in I could tell him before. But I don't think any man really wants to go to contract herpes from anyone. Especially at my age I just turned 70. So what does the group think about what happened to me its hard for me to get over the last relationship and it was more of a physical relationship I guess then a emotional support of relationship I'm