joancharlotte

Thanks all of you, I really appreciate your opinion. It was a help.

thanks. appreciate your reply and time.

Its very hard for me to tell him the date is off. I am in duality.

I guess I must be desperate in not wanting to be alone. Thanks for your words I appreciate your outside objective opinion.

last weekend I went out on a first date POF and the guy started talking about sex after a few drinks wanting me to go home with him. i just said nothing. He was my age and was treating me nicely otherwise. then he said lets go to movies. so i said ok. in moves he put his hand under my skirt. i said nothing and just moved away. then when he texted me two days later i toid him off . do these men really think us woman will jump into bed with them so easily? and risk our health? Disenchanted with mens behavior.

Just told him that no sex until. but we can go out for dinner if he wants. he said dinner. maybe waisting my time with him. Friendly dinner is ok

Thank you thats what I thought.

He says he doesn't want to know what he has

still feeling the loss of the last boyfriend who I told about the H virus. He dropped so fasttttttt. It was like I never new him. Maybe I am luckey he is gone. Maybe I need time to like myself better. Not be so needy. I have much to be grateful for. Wanting A new relationship. Is not a need its a want. Acceptance of the way things are is what i need to strive for.

Sleep on it the answers will come. Be a realist not a romantic both get tested.

I see or hear or read a lot of gratitude here on this website. Yes we are all blessed. I seem to be crying yet I am blessed. Who is perfect everyone has a health issue. Its going to happen sooner or later. I guess we have a choice weather to work it up or work it down. I will choose to not make an issue of it. Thank you all

Thank you for the wonderful Halloween story, last night was Valentines day evening and I was with out a boyfriend he left me when I told that I had herpes 1 genitals. He has another girl friend now. I went out with a girl friends even though I felt very sad all day. I think I am really luckey that he is gone because revealing herpes to him made him dissapear. I really was lonely with him. He was not interested in me he only was interested in sex and his erection. Herpes did me a faver and revealed the truth about the other person. Thank you for your story about being alone , revealing your herpes story.

Thank you both harry and Dancer, I really appreciate your factual info. Especially about the FC2 condom. that would be perfect for HS 1 virus genital. I decided not to contact the boyfriend 2 who rejected me. Its too upsetting to open the doors to an additional rejection. Yes one Dr did mention that she thought at 70 years old's immune system does not need to be dealing with Herpes. Thats all she said. I do not know what she was suggesting. She didn't talk much she was with italian accent. maybe in Italy the older people 70+ sit in rocking chairs. That Dr did diagnose the HS1.by the swab test. Have a great day You made me laugh about the Pussy in the Mirror

The Dr Gynocologist a head of the dept in a hospital, I went to him with a list of questions for the second boyfriend before the sex and all he said was use the condom and then after three months take off the condom, that herpes 1 was no big deal. We never did discuss about the telling. Maybe the professional Medical field do not care or know enough. No one really wanted to talk openly about the sex subject. They figure seniors are going to die soon anyway. I will print out your paperwork and give to these people who really have no idea about the telling, 50% safety with condom and the shedding HSV. I still work 5 days a week so I am not retired yet.My time is limited. But I think it might be something I would like to do. I was supprised how little people want to talk about herpes.

Thats a good idea you have about better informing Drs and therapist about seniors and STD. No one even said use a condom to me. I went to a gyn nursepractioner, & 3 different counclers. Before I had the sex. Never heard anything from them about safesex. One said after I got the herpes and asked her how come she never mentioned to me about the safesex when I went to see her she said " your 70 years old. you should know all this". I asked the very religious church goer who gave me the herpes if he was std free and he said he said "I m clean", He came down with a herpes break out on the lips and nose after I got the herpes 1 genital from him. he must of been shedding when I got it. I never saw him again after I had the outbreak. but he texted me that about a week after I got it he said he had a very bad break out to the lips and nose. The second boy friend dumped me after I mentioned that I had HPV 1, I was of no use to him anymore. Simple dinners and handholding was not what he had in mind. I don't like to curse but this was definitly funny. He said he's going to miss the "pussy". thats the last I heard from him. humor is our best friend. Life is full of suprises.

Thanks for understanding and thanks for your supportive comments. life dosen't end at 70, wait you will be their too and its not over. I am alive and vibrant and want a male friend my age whos not afraid of the H, STD. Their must be someway to keep both partners safe. I learn at this forum so much thank you.

Its phasic not basic. It will get better. Sorry u our having a hard time of it. At least the ex is helping.

googluckchuck I like the idea high light your gains blindspot your failures.we the H people gained a lot from this virus. It could have been HIV. We gained humility. We gained. Probmem solving for the next experiece.life is making mistakes again and again and again. I didnt want to leave this earth a virgin. I was angry at my husband for all those years of lossed intimacy. I feel punished for having sex recently snd getting H but it was worth it . Maybe thrir eill be a 3rd chance or maybe. not.

Talk about ironey my husband of 43 years died, we hadn't had sex in 35 years, I was his caretsker gor 2 yearsctill he died. The first man I had sex with I got oral herpes 1 genital of the laibia any way he said he didnt know he had it.we didnt use condom either. I didnt think about stds.glad I red this message. I made a big mistake too and I am a grandma. The irony of life is humor. The next partner left when I tod about the H. That was a mistake too. Good luck too the gentleman. The lessons are their. This site is very emotionaly helpful. Joan

Thanks gor yhe rrply. Much appreciated.

How to treat herpes sores in mouth?

It is burning. I think this is something new. I got a startle. My original herpies was only in thegenitals. Do you think it could now show up 5 months later ?

I have another question for you experienced people. Question is I just noticed my mouth on the side of my mouth from the dark red blister small blisters and a white large a blister on the side of my mouth and it's a little painful do you think that's the herpes ones come came out I never had that before the mouth I just noticed it tonight should I go on the antiviral medication I have a prescription filled prescription ready for that what do you think the doctors are out its Friday night. I appreciate it and answer I could call the doctor to see if I should start the medication. However it might just be in a sore in the mouth the away by itself Thank.

Thank you so much, I really appreciate your thoughts and understanding. Thanks for taking the time to tell me what I need to realize. The hunt for picnics that turn into sorry panics. I like my aloneness. I just don't like being alone. It really wasn't clear about tell about the herpes or not telling. Now I know if the situation ever comes up again, its best to tell. When I asked if I should tell some professional said tell, and some said don't tell so I took the easy way out by not telling. I am sad that I made a mistake. it was a painful mistake. thanks again I think I am finished with internet dating, I will pursue my love of art.

Thank you. Can I really tell a new up and comming relationship.if I ever get one again. Herpes one of the genital.? I can't see anything older person wanting to have to Tennessee with me when their 70 years old people in there were older don't want to get sick your music system is not as good as the younger people so they probably will run much faster for me if I tell. Maybe we better to just take the antiviral medication seen that I didn't get an outbreak since the first one I'm not saying anything. I would rather be honest I didn't like the feeling of not being honest and I certainly don't know if that's the reason the last the man left Mimi's because I didn't tell right in the beginning. I'm almost positive they would have been not hundred dating if I woulda told in the beginning before we had sex because he was all about physical not really about anything else. So that's what I'm dealing with and thank you for posting on the post and I will read back over the posts what you suggestions are in I do agree with what you're saying its just that I'm very disappointed after so many years being with my husband and now being alone is difficult and then on top of it having contracted herpes so I'm feeling sorry for myself. But I guess there are worse things in life and I have a lot to be grateful for. I have a nice job that I have two beautiful grandchildren and daughter I go to work so its not that bad thanks for listening to me I appreciate it.