Warning: Long Post Ahead lol. Here's a little back story I'm 23 and I recently found out in April 2014 that I have hsv2 on my genitals. What a shock that was to me as I've always gotten checked for stds, so for the dr. to say yep its herpes I went through so many emotions. I immediately bust out crying, then I was angry, and I was hurt. I was so emotional I had to stay in the dr.s office and couldn't drive home right away. That same day the dr. suggested that I get blood drawn, and I had a swab done and they both came back positive.
I had met the guy at work (1st time hooking up with a co-worker) and we clicked right away. Since I didn't know him like that I didn't want to have sex rightttt away so I waited like a month; what can I say? he was a charmer. So from December- April non-stop sex unprotected, kicking myself because of this. I talked to him about it and he admitted he had a herpes scare back in Nov. or Dec. and it was negative, but he never mentioned it to me. If he would have I wouldn't have had sex with him.
After all of this our "friendship" "relationship" became strained. I was stressed from school and work and he had family issues going on, and his phone got turned off. I haven't heard from him in weeks (2 months or so) until last night. I guess he went to the dr. and he had a swab because he had a bump and blood work done twice and that the blood work came back negative for herpes. I suggested that we both go to the dr together either his or mine he said he's ok with that.
He said his dr. said that his bump looks like hpv so we're waiting on his results. That'll be really awkward if he has hpv only and I have herpes and possibly hpv? don't know if that's part of std check up...goodness *long sigh*. So I've had 2 outbreaks since April not too painful, yet painful enough, and I've been taking the generic version of Valtrex. Valtrex helps with the itching and lessening the outbreaks but I can only take the meds with milk as it tastes metallic like, but lately Valtrex has been making my stomach hurt. I usually take 2 a day but now I'm trying out once a day again, after doing this a few weeks ago that's when I had my 2nd outbreak. I'm trying to see how my body will react without the meds as I am not a pill taker. Don't like pills.
My questions are why isn't herpes included in routine std check ups? If I asked to get tested for everything, then dammit test me for everything!! Is hpv tested by doing a pap smear? Because when I noticed the bumps..blisters (sorry for the ignorance) I went to my obgyn immediately. Dr. did a swab, blood work, and a pap smear. Positive for herpes, they called about pap smear I had bv also, and negative for everything else...He wants to see me tonight so maybe I'll have to settle with him for the mean time. I also have a different guy friend whose interested in me but it's a sticky situation at the moment. Also he likes to give oral and receive oral. I'm paranoid now about what-if I have hpv....If I continue taking Valtrex is that ok with or without condoms? since we can't re-infect each other? And he is SO in denial about the herpes, But I got herpes a few months after being with him so I assumed it was him, but I honestly don't know who I got it from...had a total of 7 partners in my life.
Sorry for the very long post I needed to vent. I'm the type of person where I keep everything bottled up then explode. I'm not angry with him as it was part my fault to, but I feel very misinformed. Maybe I should've paid more attention in health class. There's so many things I didn't know about herpes and there's so many stigmas attached to it. Now it's a part of my everyday life.
~Taylor01
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