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Thanks everyone! So nice to be able to come here for your support when I am having a weak moment!

I had a friend tell me the other day some very hurtful opinions on what she would do if she found out she had herpes. Without telling her I had it I shared the facts with her about it but she was very naive and ignorant and combative. "No that would be it for me you'll never find anyone then." I have had HSV2 for over 2 years now and I often feel like I am long past the emotional effects of having it besides the fact that I've still never had to disclose. When I hear things like what my friend was saying, it makes me wonder if I ever will find anyone and if anyone really does understand how much of this is a stigma. It was very disheartening and has left me under a bit of a dark cloud all over again.

It's funny you say that white daisy because yesterday I was with him all day and had the urge to tell him so many times but I didn't have the print outs and I didn't feel prepared. And I kept thinking maybe I should go with that feeling. But I think I need I do this sooner then later because it is starting to weigh heavily on me.

Thanks for that dancer! And I have the handouts for him as well. I still don't know when I want to tell him. Like I said, we aren't being intimate yet and like I have seen others say it is important to wait until I am ready but I know that I am ready to enjoy my relationship freely without feeling like I have this hanging over my head.

Thanks so much you guys! I know I am being hesitant. I don't even know if I am ready. But hearing from all of you gives me the confidence I need. I have HSV2.

Thanks for the kind words everyone!!! I know all these things and I believe all these things! Before him and I took this step from friends to more then friends I was feeling really really confident that I would find someone to one day accept me and that h was nothing but my wingman. I love that idea! And that thought was really working for me. But now that I am actually faced with it it seems more doubts are popping into my head. More often then not I am confident in what I think his response will be.

Thanks so much dancer! I just hope he can accept this part of me just like he accepts the rest of my flaws. I have read some of your posts before saying you maintained long healthy relationships without transmitting it to your partner. I am also coming up on my one year anniversary of having h and I am not sure if I am mistaken but does this mean my chances of passing it along to down a bit as well? I am on antivirals and do plan on using condoms when I do decide it is ready.

I recently started dating a friend and the idea of disclosing to him absolutely terrifies me. So we have not slept together yet. I sleep over his place but we don't have sex. I know he of all people will be understanding but I am still terrified to disclose. We have only been dating about a month and I still don't feel ready to tell him and he doesn't force anything on me because I made it clear that i wanted to take that side of things very slow. I feel like if I wait too long to tell him he will feel tricked, but I have never disclosed before and even though I know I can trust him, I still don't know how to tell him this. I used to be so confident in my thoughts on what his reaction would be but as I feel like I am getting closer and closer to disclosing, my confidence has wavered. Just looking for some guidance or kind helpful words.

I recently started dating a friend and the idea of disclosing to him absolutely terrifies me. So we have not slept together yet. I sleep over his place but we don't have sex. I know he of all people will be understanding but I am still terrified to disclose. We have only been dating about a month and I still don't feel ready to tell him and he doesn't force anything on me because I made it clear that i wanted to take that side of things very slow. I feel like if I wait too long to tell him he will feel tricked, but I have never disclosed before and even though I know I can trust him, I still don't know how to tell him this. I used to be so confident in my thoughts on what his reaction would be but as I feel like I am getting closer and closer to disclosing, my confidence has wavered. Just looking got some guidance or kind helpful words.

@WCSDancer2010 so does this mean that once you have had it for a year, your chance of spreading it decreases? I have had it for about 9 months now and I have been on suppressants the whole time because I can't handle the outbreaks. I am still coming to terms with it and just recently joined this site to try and help.

I am 26 years old and a female in the tri state area. I was diagnosed in October of 2013 but I haven't taken many steps to try to make myself feel better about it. I think I was in denial for a bit but I am starting to realize, I have this disease, but it does not have me. I want to start to feel like myself again. And I want to have someone to talk to on those days where I feel really down about it, because that happens pretty often. I blame myself a lot for not taking better care of myself because I know this could have been prevented and now I don't have the chance to change it and I really wish I did. I know that this feeling is hard to overcome, but I am ready to try.