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I know the online percentage is small, at the moment it's all I have. Not ready to disclose to someone that does have H. Either way my entire life I've been a quiet guy, I've always used the Internet to meet my past girlfriends. I've been in 2 relationships and I'm 28, unfortunately the last one left me a broken heart and some H. i thought it was friction, she broke up with me just a few days after this happened. i never told her what I was going through because what i thought was a friction burn turned out to be the initial outbreak. I still haven't told her to this day. I still haven't physically been diagnosed only visually online. point is I've spent most of my life single. I wouldn't want to feel singled out, I want someone who emotionally knows what I'm dealing with so we can be there for each other. So I will keep trying until I find the right one. I'm working on making the best version of myself, getting into shape, cut way down on smoking, eating healthy, etc. and hoping one day I can find a beautiful, intelligent, exquisite woman who also has H. Within the community is where I want to be, I believe God has a plan for all of us. And I'm in this position for a reason. The way I think about relationships has completely changed since I've realized I have H. Before they seemed very dispensable, now with H I'm looking for a life partner and would cherish a relationship a lot more then before. I'm sure a lot of people the same way when they're diagnosed. Two people who share the same condition, feel the same way about finding a life partner. In my opinion sure I might be reducing my dating population, but I'm raising the success rate by reducing my dating world to people who really want something long term due to having H.

@WCSDancer2010 - thanks for clearing that up... i was wondering because i would like to date someone who also shares the same condition but not if it means my condition will worsen. Ive had it for over a year now so I'm sure the antibodies are plentiful. @ihaveittoo - Thanks for the insight really appreciate you taking the time to share your experience. I seem to only get outbreaks after friction so I know exactly what your talking about

Ok. I have tried getting as much info on this subject as possible but never seem to get a clear answer if anyone know can you please help. Say I met someone that I decide to be in a relationship with, if we have the same type of genital herpes will either of us begin to develop sores on areas that we didn't have them before? I only get it on the lower side of the shaft but would I start getting blisters in other spots due to having sexual relationship with someone who has the same type? Does that only happen if you're having sex during an outbreak? Just would like some clarity on the matter

@beachdude1984 - I couldn't have said it better myself. Very well put. The way I feel exactly

music is a great mental tool... Being an audio recording engineer my passion for music is deep rooted

You're definitely right, which is why I'm on a path where hoping the next person I get involved with will be because I see a real long term future. No exceptions.

John, what these insightful women are telling you is the absolute truth. Life goes on brother, we all have battle scars. some days will be tough but in the end you will come out a stronger and more open minded person. If you see the sunrise it's a new day and a new opportunity to make the best version of yourself. If you ever need to talk feel free to message me dude.

I completely agree that's why we disclose but say I was with someone negative and she got it from me even after being safe. If I wanted out of the relationship it would be that much harder and would leave me with so much guilt

Just wanted to wish all you great people a happy thanksgiving. Be thankful for the good things we have in life. Friends, family, and health. Remember that things can always be a lot worse. This thanksgiving I'm more thankful then ever just to be alive and have an amazing family. Happy holidays guys! Gobble Gobble

Just wanted to wish all you great people a happy thanksgiving. Be thankful for the good things we have in life. Friends, family, and health. Remember that things can always be a lot worse. This thanksgiving I'm more thankful then ever just to be alive and have an amazing family. Happy holidays guys! Gobble Gobble

I know I'm worthy of love, I'm not throwing a pity party. Just wouldn't want someone to blame me for it. I know the right one would take the risk for me, but I also look at it like maybe the right person for me all along is h positive and maybe that's why I'm in the position im in. Everything in life happens for a reason

I guess it's easy to think the worst when you're on your own side of the fence. But again I just wouldn't want someone to be with me and be afraid every time we got intimate, I think sharing the condition with someone would be beneficial considering both would know what each other is going through and feeling. To me it seems a lot better that way and to have to put a condom On each and every time I want to get intimate with my woman is crazy in my opinion. I want kids, what would my partner say then? I know I'm cutting out a lot of the population by only dating in the community, but dating outside of the community got me in this mess in the first place so maybe someone who is also h positive would have a bit more compassion for the relationship between the 2 of us..

Ok that's understandable... But what I'm really pointing towards is genital H.. But thanks for the input inka

I'm an H positive male but almost every success story I hear is about a negative male accepting a positive woman. To me it seems a lot easier for women to find a negative partner that is accepting. I can't speak for everyone of course, but I honestly don't see any woman (especially in my region- south Florida) being able to look passed the condition. I'm not the type to think I will always be alone, but I feel like I should strictly date within the community now. I also wouldn't want a negative partner to always be worried about their own health because of me. If anyone has any insight that would be awesome. Again I'm not posting out of depression just curiously.