kdogstew

btw, I read your wall. Thank you for taking time to give me advise. I will read your next post and give this a rest for a day or two. Just a little scared and not too many people for me to talk to. Out of respect for her, I don't share this information with many of my friends.

She takes valtrex. I want the intimacy to be great and it is, so I hesitate suggesting condoms. I've been paranoid (convinced) that I have contracted multiple times. I'm somewhat of a hypochondriac. I don't want to bring this up and cause unnecessary pressure/concern but also its hard to not talk to her about this. She has always been my voice of reason. The leg pain is what alarms me. It has persisted for some time. If not for that I would suspect a UTI. Seems like if she had a bladder infection I could have easily picked up a UTI, but I'm no doctor. I read somewhere that a doctor suggested it would be VERY unlikely to have herpes in the urethra without also presenting other sores. I guess I will just try to sleep on it, pray, and hope the burning has subsided tomorrow. If I win the marriage back, none of this will matter :)

I certainly appreciate the wisdom and I do not intend to ask too much, but I do have a two follow up questions. 1. Today I developed a slight stinging after urination. I still do not have any lesions. Does this sound like it could be urethral herpies? 2. Also, is stdcheck.com a reliable way to get tested? I do not have insurance and this would be much cheaper. I know there are a couple of types of herpes blood test.... Igg or Iga or something. I do not know which one they use. Is there one I should specifically inquire about? I know you pay through them but go to local clinic to have the blood work done. Thanks Keith BTW, don't worry... no one has outworked me toward winning back his marriage. If she will agree to work on this again and commit to it, I will do much better not worrying about the idea of contracting. Its just that right now she is on the fence. We need intimacy, but that puts me at risk. She does not want to go back to a condom b/c she feels like it somehow "cheapens" her or the experience. We were married for 5 years. We are divorced but on paper only. We are trying to repair the marriage. This is a stressful time for me.

My ex wife and I are trying to repair our marriage. I knew she was HSV II positive. I have always supported her and been willing to live with the risk. She has had it for years and never been the cause of her partner becoming infected. That has been about 12 years with no transmission. Last sat she was not feeling symptoms of an OB nor has she had one since, however she was having a bladder infection issue. She drank cranberry juice and it went away. I have been tested within the past 6 months and was negative but after the weekend with the bladder infection I have been worried. I have not felt well (flu like symptoms) with lower back pain and a constant pain in my right leg. However, the pain seems more muscular and not nerve oriented. It is in the back of my leg (hamstring) not the thigh. It doesn't seem to start in my buttocks. I see no evidence of sores on the glans penis or the shaft. No pain on the penis, no tingling, no itching, no discomfort urinating. It has been 8 days. My biggest concern is whether the pain I am experiencing in my right hamstring is consistent with an OB. I was thinking the pain in the leg was not usually part of the initial OB but a recurring one. I will get tested in a couple of weeks. As I said, I don't have a "red base" or sores right now to have tested. What is the most common amount of time before the pustules will present after exposure? what about that leg pain? Any advise would be appreciated. Keith