I recently decided to get back into dating and met a man who I was beginning to really like. We had been seeing each other for 3 weeks when he asked me to be his girlfriend. (Since my ex boyfriend did not fully disclose his diagnosis to me, I always told myself I would never do that to anyone else.) His response to me "I understand. I read about it and it doesn't bother me. You really thought I would reject you because of that? I want to be with you". He then kissed me, hugged me and said " I'm so happy we're together". I left his house feeling on top of the world. I felt that this man accepted me for me.
So it came as a surprise that just 4 days after disclosing, he sends me a text..yes a text...not a phone call and says "I spoke to my doctor and he said we can't have a healthy intimate relationship. I would end up getting it eventually. I'm sorry, but I have to change my mind. Your an amazing women, one I could see myself marrying but it's with a heavy heart that I've made my decision".
I felt like my heart split in two. I almost threw up. Not only was this man not respectful enough to pick up the phone but I felt deceived. How could someone give you so much reassurance that your diagnosis doesn't matter and they want to be with you anyway and then dump you...especially not face to face? This is the first time I have been rejected. This opened my eyes to people who are afraid of what they don't understand. But what pisses me off the most is that this man lied to me and said he read about HSV and understands when in fact he did not. He could of easily said " I need some time to process this". To avoid rejection again, I think it would be best to sign up for a herpes dating site instead risk such pain again. My diagnosis does not define me but is simply an unfortunate circumstance. Any thoughts?