doglady

thank you, I will share this with him. I usually only take the antivirals when i have an OB which is rare, like once a year at most. Luckily, where I live I can get it without a prescription, so I can take it on a regular basis if that makes him feel better.

I am having the opposite problem. I have had herpes (not sure of the strain) for 39yrs. I have been in 3 long term relationships 5yrs, 19yrs, and 9yrs. NONE of these partners contracted herpes (maybe they were asymptomatic). I refrain from sex once I recognize my warning signs that an OB is about to happen and of course, not during an OB. I have one small lesion on my tail bone area. I rarely have outbreaks now. My new bf was told from the gitgo that I have herpes but was not having an outbreak. He chose to have unprotected sex. Well, now, he is concerned, thinking I could be shedding and putting him at risk even without an OB. I have tried to put him at ease saying I would refrain from sex during an OB and don't mind condoms but I think he is wanting us to have a more no intercourse kind of sex life. Not sure, I can deal with that. How can I reassure him that his chances of ''catching this incurable disease" are slim to none? I even had 2 normal childbirths without issues. Is there a test to see if I am shedding when I am not having an OB?