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I personally have OCD and it sounds like herpes has become an obsession for you. It seems pretty clear that you do not have herpes but you do not want to believe the negative tests. You should really see a rheumatologist and perhaps speak to a mental health professional about the herpes issue. I say this out of concern as I have dealt with similar issues.

Joint pain and nerve involvement are symptoms of Bechet's. You should see a rheumatologist as soon as possible. You have had multiple negative tests for herpes.

Look at Bechet's syndrome. You have mentioned many of the symptoms. I wish you the best.

http://www.hopkinsvasculitis.org/types-vasculitis/behcets-disease/