Nicguy

Hi There are understanding people out there.It just has to be an open minded person that is willing to listen, and understand. You will have to say what you are looking for meaning long term, short term so they can understand where you are going in terms of with the person you would like to have in a relationship.We all dislike rejection,and you can be rejected and it hurts.Even online when someone expresses interest you may reject them by not responding to them and you hardly know anything about them. Please do not go in feeling insecure that can ruin a relationship,so stay positive. Look we all have things about us when meeting someone or getting to know them we wonder do we tell them about any bad habits like burping,biting nails etc. So think about this can you tell them about those habits upfront because those are life long things that person will have to deal with. Even after 9 months of dating a woman and then her telling me she had herpes I still embraced her.Sure I wish she had told me in the beginning but it was after the fact and you can not reverse time and so not being able to go back I took what was presented to me and decided I wanted to just go forward with her.

Those who do not have an open mind will always have a closed door.(It sometimes takes wisdom to work ,and more time, with some people then others. With all this I say if a limb that was lost in an accident would they do the same (run)even though it would not be contagious because all that happen is that you lost a foot or eye etc.. People say they want honesty but honesty can be taken as negative. Sometimes when I have showed my papers to a woman to show I have been tested for all things and its a clean bill of health, I will get a look of why are you showing me that. That alone tells me some would rather not know I feel, through my experience. I was still willing to except her even though she told me and the reason is it already happen and what is done is done and I cannot change that.So why run now my choice was already taken so I make the best of it. So to break up and now have to explain to another person will be just as much work or harder then just to work it out with who gave it to me I feel. Communication is the key and with out it war exist between human beings.

NC I went through the same exact thing almost but she did not say she was doing it because it was done to her.Like you she did not tell and knew about it.. The thing that is different is i got check once a year. i wanted to have papers on myself for me and if i met someone to show them i had been check for everything. I have a clean bill of health. Even though i showed her my papers in the begininng {she did not ask for them. i was just being up front} to show her hey im not only looking out for me but im looking out for you she never once said anything about herself when i said how about you. It was like do i look like im like that. So forward now i dated her for a year and a half she had 2 teenage sons that liked me a lot and so I tried to make it work out but she kept treating me like dirt. She was very insecure and tried to put stuff on me (meaning blame me). Mind you i tried to make it work after she told me but her insecurity was pushing me away. I never got mad i just wish i had the option to be told so i could have a choice to be with her or find someone else but i never like you was given a choice because i was never told. So i tried to make it work i liked her teenaged sons and i figured it happen and i don't want to go through this with someone else so why not make it work. She started being very mean to me to where i could not take it anymore so i called it off but wanted to be friends at least or try to be. But she stop talking to me out of the blue,blocked my calls and lives like a hermit and always hiding..I just gave up and now i have left her alone even after making several attemps to contact her to just talk about it and make amends to this.I had fell deeply for her. As a matter of fact after the break up i had a pinched nerve and i was in serious pain and could not move i called her for help and called again left messages but never got a can i help or are you okay did not get nothing and i thought i at least get a call to see if i was okay but got nothing its just to show what kind of person i was dealing with. Im saying to myself nice guys do finish last. NC if there is one thing i know not right now but she will contact you again if she has not already.