suzyq15
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i recently started talking to a man online from a general dating site. We took it offline and text every day. I’ve been talking to him for a couple of weeks and today we were discussing things we do and don’t do and he said he doesn’t do STDs. I didn’t know how to respond to that, but I did not disclose. He lives in a different city than me and will travel a decent distance to meet me and has plans to this week. I don’t want to waste his time or mine by not telling him beforehand, but typically I disclose in person. How would you all handle this? TIA!
💜 Rachael
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Thanks....I'm not quite sure how it's going. Trying to be patient but keeping the door open for someone new too The distance has grown greater. Oh well. More fish in the sea!
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I didn't end up giving him any....he hasn't talked to me without me talking first and I don't want to blow him up so I'm just letting him do his thing and maybe he will come around. I can find some links for you, though. Someone gave me some several years ago. I'll have to find them.
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Very helpful and sound advice. Thank you. Much appreciated!
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I recently disclosed to a man I really like. I feel like I told him with confidence and let him know that it wasn't a major deal and didn't affect my life. He told me he likes me a lot but that he didn't know much about it. I tried explaining to him what I know about it. He has been distant most of this week and I asked him about it and he said he was still processing the information but that he does really like me. I told him I wasn't sure what to tell him other than giving him some links to some websites to help give him a better understanding of it all. Does anyone have any suggestions as to what more I can say or do? He has no idea about it other than its an std that causes sores. And he said he didn't want it. If nothing more just to educate him....and possibly get a marriage proposal from him one day! Ha! Thanks for any replies!
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Haha. Will do!
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I knew that would be a response. I questioned her about the same thing, but I dont believe she understands. I'm aware of the differences. She is suggesting ingestion of the oils or absorption going into the blood stream. It is challenging for me to explain herpes to people when it gets into the deeper explanation, such as it being viral. I'll have to forward your response. And possibly be her guinea pig, ha.
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I have a friend who is selling oils, the new "IN" thing. She has been doing a bit of research and is convinced certain oils "cure" hsv. Had anyone heard of thus or experienced it? I'm not a huge fan of taking meds in general and typically when I have an outbreak I just wait it out in pain. But who wouldn't do this if it were true?!
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Thanks, Judith! That's helpful.
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I was diagnosed with hsv 2 about 9 months ago and have had several outbreaks, none too terrible. Twice now I have had vulva and clitoral pain with no outbreaks. Has anyone else experienced this? Is it related to the virus?
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Hahaha. Not grossed out at all! I never mind tmi. I don't think I'm having an issue with hygiene and I'm not sure how to describe the odor other than its off. Just seems like the past couple of outbreaks I've had an odor. Always makes me think I am having a yeast or bacterial infx. I've had some minor swelling as well. Guess I'll go see my doc soon. Thanks!
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Have odors associated with a herpes outbreak or an outbreak with no lesions, but pain? Can't figure out if I'm having an outbreak or prodrome or something entirely different. Thanks!
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Little late to the convo, but the "playing with myself and rubbing my kids face" cracked me up! I mean, really...anyway, a helpful book I bought is called "The Good News About the Bad News...Herpes: Everything You Need to Know" written by Terri Warren. Has lots of information about the virus. Hope things are going better for you!
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I've never created an app before, but will see what I can come up with!
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Any thoughts on creating an app for this forum?
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What ended up happening with your situation, inspired32?
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Adrial, you are número uno in my book. Thanks for responding so quickly! When I was diagnosed it was from a swab...no blood test. I don't have insurance currently so I did the cheapest testing possible. When I got called back for my results I asked if it was hsv2 and they said yes, but I'm not confident the person I spoke with knew what they were talking about. I intend to call back Monday to verify for certain and once my insurance kicks in (hopefully August) I plan to get blood work done. I've just had some weird stuff goin on inside my mouth and also have a pimple like thing on my lip right now. Don't recall having it before. It's not painful at all so that's why I'm uncertain of a connection between the two. Anyway, thanks for getting back with me so soon! This is an amazing forum!
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Have hsv2...I know outbreaks can happen on numerous places on your body...does that include your mouth? Having a vagibal outbreak and have a little bump on my lip. Don't wanna pass it from kissing.
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Very funny! I have had many a days like that. Love!
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You all had wonderfully helpful things to say. Thank you so much for your responses. I'm feelin much better. Herpes did change my life for the positive. I decided to be a healthier person to avoid outbreaks and have lost some weight (much needed) in the process!
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Diagnosed with hsv2 2 months ago, never really "dated" before, always jumped into relationships. Obviously now I need to take things slower but it's a work in progress. Met a guy online and we had a date, he was all about me or kept saying he was and I held off on sex for a whole week and a half (sarcasm). Saw him a few times after the date. I wanted to wait longer to have sex. We were fooling around and it started getting intense and I kept telling him we needed to slow down and he kept messing with me and we ended up having sex. I freaked out afterwards bc it was too soon and I guess he freaked out bc he just had sex with someone who has herpes. Haven't heard from him. Feeling really crappy about my first sexual experience since finding out my herpes diagnosis. Just feeling a little hopeless. On top of the herpes I'm a single mom of 2 and have never been married. I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life and its a huge fear especially now. Any words of wisdom or encouragement?
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Thank you so much for responding! I was thinking along the same lines of investing time, then being disappointed anyway. I did end up telling him, just to get it over with and he was actually ok with it, to my complete surprise! I think it was easier because I texted him after he was asking if I wanted to see him again. Anyway, I appreciate your response and think I will continue just getting it out of the way in the future. :D
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Recently diagnosed with hsv2 and have met someone. Not sure how I feel about him yet, but was wondering if I should just go ahead and disclose to seal the deal giving him the option to see if there is more between us or not. Curious about others experiences. I have never disclosed.
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Dating question for herpes veterans (or newbies too!).
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Absolutely, @AnonJack. I have always disclosed. Just wasn’t sure of timing on this one. Had me perplexed. I like your answer. Makes sense. I may not like him when I meet him so for now it’s not his business. Thanks!!