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Hey there, I got diagnosed 2 years ago and ended up in a relationship with someone who was very kind about it, but it definitely messed with our love life given his hatred of condoms. Now I'm out of the relationship and really nervous about getting out there again. Any tips or advice or inspiration? Much appreciated.

Does anyone feel weird when friends are talking about their spontaneous sex stories? For those of you using condoms, does it get you down? Do you have any good tips/tricks for still having fun with sex with HSV? I used to be love doing it in crazy place, spontaneous time, but now this has taken that spark out of me. Miss it.

I'm wondering if anyone has had this experience - I have never been able to figure out what my OB looks like. I'm sorry if that's gross, but hey, we know we have to check so I feel safe here. Every time I feel a tickle I look with a mirror and I just can't tell...it could be an OB, or it could just be a normal, oversized follicle. Has anyone had this difficulty? It's weird because if I feel a tickle and my bf wants to have sex, I just can't tell if I'm safe or not. If you have had this experience, what do you do? Do you go to your gyno and have them tell you if that's it?

I'm wondering how folks feel about spontaneous sex with discordant couples? Does anyone else feel kinda...sad when hearing other couples talk about their spontaneous sex (without condoms) stories? I miss that the most, the random places and excitement. I would love to hear how you cope with the jealousy? Does anyone else have a tough time hearing about friends' sex lives?

Thank you!!

Thank you!!

Thank you!!

First of all, thank goodness for this forum. Life savers. So, this is kinda weird, but I still don't know how to surely know whether I have an OB or not. I don't know what they look like when I check, and I'm slightly confused. I've also read on here that people will check consistently for signs of it before sex even if they don't feel any side effects, which makes me think that they can just show up without pain? My first OB wasn't that painful (super lucky, I know) and now I'm just confused about what to do to make sure I am clear. There is a little piece of skin that could so easily be it, or not, it doesn't feel weird when poked. Is it usually obvious for you all? In your first years of diagnosis was it easy to pinpoint whether you were having an OB or not? Should I just be going to my gyno every time I see something that may be it and ask her to tell me if that's a OB or not? Thank you!!!!

Have you ever had confusion about whether you're having an OB or not? Whether the tiniest tickle is a shedding?

@Turquoise621 We talked about it at the beginning and I was insistent on using condoms bc I'd be wrought with guilt if I passed it. He agreed. We are still using condoms but he's mentioned he dreads having sex sometimes because of them. It would be terrible if he left because of that bit, I can't really do anything about that? And I'm worried I will never find anyone else that's ok with this.

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How have people done it, get used to the idea of using condoms forever? Did you get depressed at bachelorette parties? How did you ever feel normal again? Any mind tricks or helpful hints? The idea of doing that forever is getting me so down, I can't wrap my head around it. Thank you.

Holy crap that was wonderful to read. Thank you I will definitely reach out,appreciate the offer very much

Thanks surfsup. If I may ask, did you have the experience of going condomless with a meg partner? What was that convo like? How did you oh decide, and did you feel more nervous passing it on? If you've not had this experience please disregard and thanks anyway!

Hey there. I've had H for about a year now, and am beyond blessed to have a loving partner. However, we've been having way less sex the last half a year, and last weekend he disclosed that he dreads having sex because of having to put on a condom. He's not complaining or blaming, but was just honest. Has anyone ever had this experience? Any tips? I can't help feeling guilty and am worried to lose him to a lifetime of condom use. I've tried lots of different brands and types. Any thoughts appreciated! Thanks