[It can happen!]

Awesome stuff right here and wow....he has it and didn't know! So glad to hear all is well!!!

[Please help. I had sex without disclosing]

Yes, come clean. Assure him you were safer than most he could have slept with and move on. He may even have it himself

[A physicists' thoughts on "one-night-stand" or getting herpes per-exposure probabilities]

Well, yes....you can get H from a one night stand. Obviously, this depends on if the one night stand is with/without protection, with/without outbreak/ prodrome symptoms, with/without knowledge of having H/ with/ without anti viral....list goes on. It's less likely from a one night stand provided the person with H knows their status, uses protection, is on anti viral or is without outbreak

[Feeling Shame After Failing to Disclose]

I've had hvs2 for 35 years and never passed it on so good luck!!!

[Feeling Shame After Failing to Disclose]

I agree with @Bambina3 100%

[Feeling Shame After Failing to Disclose]

He may even have it himself

[Doctor will not prescribe me suppressive therapy]

Just tell the Dr you are having loads of Ob's and constant prodrome. If he doesn't comply, I'd find another. It's not like you are asking for narcotics!!!

[Possible vaccine for uninfected people (ie. our partners) under development]

Thanks for sharing!

[Disclosure brings new questions.... anyone with experience?]

I read somewhere that if you have hvs2 you can not get hvs1. However, the same is not true the other way around. He can get hvs2 from you. Having said that, you are on anti viral and if you use condoms, the risk is quite low female to male.....with no ob. Hopefully someone else will have a more definite answer

[If the buttocks skin is too thick for the virus to get in, why are there outbreaks there?]

I've never spread it. Had hvs2 35 plus years... lots of sex and spooning

[would like to hear from the guys]

Yes, unequivocal does mean "leaving no doubt".....your number seemed pretty low. I've had this 35 plus years, but there is plenty I don't know. I just know the chances are quite low in the situation you were in, but not impossible. I would definitely get tested again. In the meantime, you can go to "Westover Heights" website which is questions answered by a very well known herpes specialist (I'm sure her title is much more sophisticated) Terri Warren. You will learn a ton by reading her answers. She also has written a book called "The good news about the bad news."

[would like to hear from the guys]

I'm not a guy, but I wonder if you got this from the escort or if you had this and it just didn't present till now? I guess, I'm wondering because a one night stand using a condom is pretty low risk esp female to male. I'm sorry you are so depressed, but pick yourself up and move past this. It will get better with time. Go back and read @hippyherpy posts from beginning to end. You'll feel better about this.

[Famvir question]

Well, you can always tell your Dr you are having ob's every month so he will prescribe daily dose. After all, it's not a narcotic. That's what a lot of people end up doing

[Famvir question]

My initial ob 35 plus yrs ago was inside and very painful. After that (no prodrome) just redness followed by blisters.if you aren't on anti viral, I strongly recommend daily use. It's a life changer for most

[Famvir question]

I'm on acyclovir....going on two yrs. Zero ob's.....about 6 times per yr not on meds.

[Threatened my life after disclosing]

Well, it's a lesson learned. He sounds like a very immature 40 year old so count your blessings!!!. He should have worn a condom (if, for no other reason, than to prevent pregnancy at his age)so really.....he has only himself to blame. Always use a condom, until you are in a relationship with someone who doesn't mind not using one. If you think condoms don't work, just read my stories on here. Best of luck!!!

[Suppressive therapy or no?]

Just the fact that it does reduce shedding is enough to warrant asking, my oppinion.

[Disclosing by text]

A lot people do mention it in their disclosure just for reassurance.

[Disclosing by text]

I agree.....friends or family do not need to know. You might also want to let him Know if you are on anti viral or plan to take it, otherwise....best of luck to you❤

[Feeling so down]

I would talk to your best friend about it and let her help you through it. You will be fine!!! It's a hard pill to swallow at first, but just look around. 80% of the population have herpes. Does everyone around you look miserable?

[Disclosing by text]

I think it sounds perfect!

[Infected area vs. thick skin + frequency of acyclovir ?]

I think generally speaking, people with ghv1 typically have their outbreaks in the same place every time and very infrequently. In my case I have herpes virus 2 and (prior to going on anti viral) I had outbreaks on my Abdomen and buttocks as well as genitals however, I have never shed this virus to anyone and I've had this for 35 years plus. I've had lots and lots and lots of sex in those years and been married over 21 of those years and have never passed this on to anyone. I do no grinding in the genital area, but abs buttocks obviously contacting my partner

 

[Infected area vs. thick skin + frequency of acyclovir ?]

Thick skin such as thighs, abdominal area buttocks are too thick for the virus to pass through. This is What Terri Warren says in her book and on her forum. I think it's very accurate. Your immediate pubic area can shed at any time. Always wear condoms (unless you are in a relationship where the partner is ok without), take anti viral daily, use lube to prevent friction and avoid grinding. You will be fine!!!

[Disclosing in a Long-Distance relationship]

Fabulous!!!

[Discosing questions - fair to say chance of passing it on is "small"? and talking about oral sex]

The risk is much lower with condoms and even much lower with condoms and anti viral combined and obviously no ob. Oral is like 1% risk. You can read my previous posts. I've never passed it on