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I was curious what city/area you were in. The midsized one I'm in has a distinct lack of foreign women. I can't travel like I used to and miss interacting with women of different cultures.

Dude...where are you that you constantly are meeting European women? Haha Thanks for the replies above I will check out the links and information, a lot there. Keep up the good work

Hey man I signed up just to post here because I found this post through Google. Thanks for posting and keeping this updated, you are doing us all a great service. I've had Herpes for about 4 years and it has caused me so much trouble psychologically and with respect to sexual confidence. I have never really had a normal sex life, dealing with different skin conditions (molluscum, staph, now this) ever since I lost my virginity at age 22 (30 now). I haven't slept with a lot of women, probably less than you've described in this thread LOL, so it's so f-ing frustrating feeling like I never have had the fun casual dating lifestyle so many take for granted. I go from crippling dry spell to dry spell with sex maybe one a year or two years so I never "hit my stride" so to speak. Which of course increases the mental anguish. It's so hard to find any good advice from and for men (because we tend to bottle up our frustrations and find our own ways to solve problems rather than speaking about them in real life or online) in the dating world. You see so much advice that essentially tells us we can't casually date or should stick to the leper colonies, or dive into serious relationships because rare be the woman who can accept our affliction (not my words). I just don't want a serious relationship, and with so many girls throwing it around like Joe Montana why can't I be Jerry Rice for a bit? Usually when I find guys on forums talking about a lifestyle like yours they are the nihilists who have decided they don't give a damn because of the prevalence of Herpes and just go out guns blazing no disclosure. At times I almost wish I didn't have the guilty conscience that impedes me from making this choice (because I'd actually be having sex), but I just can't do it. Anyway, I have managed to disclose to one girl about a year ago and have a successful short term relationship but I felt she was much more understanding than most. The idea of casually disclosing to girls after going home with them still stifles me in general and I always feel like I'm being dishonest or something when I'm flirting with them, like I'm selling a fake version of myself to be crushed when they know the truth. Never really know when to make the disclosure so I end up quitting before I even get started. I wish it wasn't so difficult. I need to review some of the materials here and what you have posted. Anyway without telling my whole life story I just wanted to say thank you and that you have definitely inspired me with your successes. Please keep posting your successes (and failures because those happen all the time as a guy whether you have herpes or not). I am going to reread your thread and try to inspire myself to make it work and hopefully get laid again.