Panda5000

I've done some research and have found that a woman with HSV2 is less likely to pass on to her male partner than male to female. I've had HSV2 for 11 years and don't have outbreaks. I only get weird nerve pain a couple times a year, but no sores or anything. I've been spending time with a coworker and things have become heated a couple times (no penetration, but genitals touching). What are the odds I've passed it on to him already?

I've been emotionally involved with a coworker for about 8 months. He ended his long term relationship about 3 months ago and we've been spending more and more time together. We talk all the time & looking in from the outside, you'd say we're dating. We don't have a title. I know I'm going to have to disclose soon (we've fooled around a few times -- handjobs, etc) and have come close to sex (I've always pushed him away before it's happened). But I'm terrified he'll see me differently. I was diagnosed 11 years ago with HSV2 after my high school boyfriend cheated on me unknowingly. This new guy is amazing and I know he sees me for the person I am... But I'm still terrified. Any advice?