I've done some research and have found that a woman with HSV2 is less likely to pass on to her male partner than male to female. I've had HSV2 for 11 years and don't have outbreaks. I only get weird nerve pain a couple times a year, but no sores or anything. I've been spending time with a coworker and things have become heated a couple times (no penetration, but genitals touching). What are the odds I've passed it on to him already?