A HUGE Congrats to you on your continued progress and weight loss of course. My doctor here in Miami, is actually very well educated about HSV, and offers great advice, he actually has his office listed as an STD clinic and encourages those talks. If you're ever in town (or can contact him by email maybe), he is pretty awesome. I do find however that unless you're suffering from many OB's, you aren't really taken too seriously. It's like you're not physically debilitated so just deal with it - and that sucks because the mental part is just as debilitating if not worse at times.
I'm 38 and I've never had a genital OB, only some blisters on my elbow for at about 17 years. I tested positive for HSV-2 through a blood test about a year ago because my then bf got tested and was positive. I never made the correlation between my elbow and the possibility of HSV prior to him giving me that news and now I'm waiting for the next elbow blister so that I can have it swabbed and confirm if its even that.
I think of the idea of having to disclose and I just haven't been able to conquer it yet, so dating is not on my list of to do's - at least not for now.