[Help! Just diagnosed]

Katidid, I could use some guidance as well...I just got diagnosed a week ago and had my primary outbreak (very mild) thank God. My dilemma is telling my boyfriend of 6 months to go get tested. We've been having sex with unprotected the entire time we have been together because I have not had any symptoms. I don't believe this came from him. I think it came from an ex...he hasn't had any symptoms that I know of but I'm terrified to tell him because I don't want him to experience this state of depression I'm in. And I don't want him to be in any pain. Advice?

[Is it true...]

That 80% of people with Hsv2 don't know they have it?

[How do I tell my boyfriend of 6 months...]

Thank you, Southerman. I'm just scared that I unknowingly passed it on to him. He doesn't deserve that. But I guess neither do I, no one does.

[Stronger than ever: Herpes disclosure through a letter]

I know this is old but I desperately needed to read this.

[Looking for some friends for ongoing support]

Shcrazy, I know how you feel! I'm one week post diagnosis and I'm numb. I don't know how to verbalize exactly how I feel...hardest thing I've ever been through but a friend told me that with this skin condition you'll see who's really with you, you'll become a better person & you'll be forced to take better care of yourself!

[How Can I get Out the Depress Mode after finding out I have herpes]

You're right!!! Thank you for your words...& prayers for your boyfriends son!!!

[How Can I get Out the Depress Mode after finding out I have herpes]

Damn, so I would imagine my boyfriend definitely has it! I'm so scared to tell him! He's going to lose it!

[Did I pass it to him?!?]

Hi Rayofsunshine, our stories are oddly similar! What was the outcome if you don't mind me asking?

[How Can I get Out the Depress Mode after finding out I have herpes]

If you don't mind me asking how long have you and your man been together? And were y'all using protection?

[I haven't eaten a full meal in a week..,]

Gotcha!!! You're very lucky!!!

[I haven't eaten a full meal in a week..,]

Sucks, I've probably lost 10 lbs. Do you have ghsv1?

[MEN!!!!]

I am SO worried my boyfriend will have a terrible PO. Has anyone had one that required a catheter or anything of the sort? SO SO SO scared.

[Just got my test results today and I'm positive for HSV2 and am so confused]

@mishabones

[Just got my test results today and I'm positive for HSV2 and am so confused]

my outbreak was very mild...im terrified that if he has it he'll be one of the ones with a terrible outbreak requiring a catheter or something!

[How Can I get Out the Depress Mode after finding out I have herpes]

I'm so sorry to hear that! What made you go get tested?

 

Thank you for your encouragement, this is the hardest thing I've ever gone through.

[I haven't eaten a full meal in a week..,]

I can't live with the guilt of making mine sick either...does your partner know?

[I haven't eaten a full meal in a week..,]

Does your SO have it?

[Just got my test results today and I'm positive for HSV2 and am so confused]

I never cheated...my gut just tells me it's not from him.

[Just got my test results today and I'm positive for HSV2 and am so confused]

@mishabones I'm in the exact same situation. Except my SO hasn't had any symptoms yet. I just got tested because I had symptoms and my number was 5. We have been together 6 months...idk who gave it to who but I'm scared to say anything to him in fear that he tests negative now and positive later knowing I gave it to him. I can live with him giving it to me...but he will HATE me if I inadvertently gave it to him. :( I'm falling apart. I had symptoms shortly after our last "session"...but idk why I think I got it from someone else.

[Looking for some friends for ongoing support]

I was recently diagnosed as well (last week)...feeling really low. Before this I was extremely confident! I feel like life isn't worth living anymore.

[How Can I get Out the Depress Mode after finding out I have herpes]

I presented with symptoms shortly after he and I had sex the last time and I'm still scared to tell him. I fear that I have had it for a while and just not known.

[How Can I get Out the Depress Mode after finding out I have herpes]

I'm in the same boat @linda89 feeling so depressed and haven't eaten in days. I also have to tell my partner which I'm terrified of. I didn't know I had it and we have been having unprotected sex for months. I just can't bare to have him hurting like I am.

[I haven't eaten a full meal in a week..,]

I signed the petition the day I was diagnosed! Thankfully my symptoms are mild, my pain and anxiety stem from having to tell my boyfriend of six months who I've been having unprotected sex with (I had no idea I had it). I had symptoms for the first time after we had sex but I don't think it could be from him. I haven't cheated but I know he will accuse me of it and hate me forever if he has it. We were supposed to get engaged soon. :( I'm falling apart and don't know if I want to live anymore.

[How do I tell my boyfriend of 6 months...]

I haven't cheated but feel like maybe I had this before him. In my gut I just don't think he gave it to me. I'm SO terrified of his reaction. I love him a lot but I know he's going to accuse me of cheating.

[not sure how to deal with this]

You do know that a high percentage of the human population has hsv1. If she leaves you for this the chance of her getting with someone else with the same "disease" is highly likely!