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My boyfriend is on Valtrex, and lately we have been omitting condoms from our sex life. There will always be some risk, and it's up to you to decide if you want to take that risk. Worst case if you did contract HSV-2, how bad would it be? That's what I asked myself before not using a condom, and I decided that it was unlikely but if it did happen it wouldn't be the end of the world. With antivirals it's about a 2% chance of spreading. The virus sheds about 1% of the year (compared to a cold sore, HSV-1 virus which can shed up to 33% of the year), so even without antivirals the chances isn't super high.

My boyfriend also told me after two dates. He was so nervous that I wouldn't want to be with him sexually and would leave him altogether. I didn't even blink, and we have amazing sex (sometimes with condoms and sometimes without). He presented me with a ton of info and I did my own research. He went on Valtrex soon after meeting me. I understand that I am taking on some risk, but after research I really see that it's not as big of a deal as society stigmatizes it to be. It's a risk, but I love being with him, and when I met him I knew he was special. Him being HSV-2+ didn't even make a difference in my feelings for him emotionally or physically.

My boyfriend has H and I don't, but I've made the decision to continue to be intimate with him. Your boyfriend made the same decision, and was entirely informed before doing so. I'm sure it's normal to feel extremely emotional when getting your diagnosis, but herpes is also incredibly stigmatized. Knowing it's just (an albeit uncomfortable) skin condition, and not an STD that will lead to infertility or death, it's not something he should be resenting you for. If anything, it's better for you to see this side of him because if he really is going to be so mad at you then you're better off without him. Under the assumption that we are all consenting and informed adults entering into a sexual relationship, you take on that risk for yourself. Sleeping with my boyfriend I know that in theory yes, I could get H, but that's a choice that I'm making and I've made my peace with it. It seems as though your boyfriend did the same thing, but maybe didn't really think about it realistically. You did nothing wrong, and in fact did so much right to try to ensure that he was making an informed decision. I hope that he comes around, but if he doesn't then good riddance.

Hi all, So I've been dating this guy for a few weeks. He told me very quickly that he has genital herpes so that I could make an informed decision/consent to sex to knowing that there was some minor risk. Clearly, I've accepted that risk since we're still dating and really enjoying getting intimate with each other as often a possible. We do always use a condom and he is taking daily medication (I believe it's Valtrex). But that's where my questions come from. Sex with condoms is fine (if you can find the right ones, I recommend HEX, they are amazing and DON'T BREAK!) but I haven't gotten to giving him oral sex yet, which I know both of us really want. And it's an entirely selfish reason: I HATE giving oral sex to a partner while they're wearing a condom. I'm having a very hard time finding actual statistics online as to how contagious HSV-2 is in the mouth. What are the real risks to giving my partner oral sex without a condom? It's also very relevant information that I have HSV-1 and had cold sores every year since I was a child (which I informed him of as well). Does this play any role in making it more difficult to catch HSV-2? Thank you for reading this, please share any information you have~