Don17

Father of two with a wife. Been with her for ten years and just been recently diagnosed with genital HSV2 (thought the sores were ingrown hairs) had it roughly 13/14 years. Having a breakout now in a completely different place to normal. By normal I mean I get symptoms every now and again on the shaft maybe once or twice a year if that. Would like someone from the UK, prefer a male buddy if possible. Thanks for reading

I don’t have any insurance as we have the NHS over here which in turn means I can’t get a prescription off a doctor until they open on Monday. So have to deal with this the whole weekend without treatment. I’ve been fine since I told my other half and everything has been back to normal until yesterday when I noticed a lump in said area. Wish they would hurry up and find a cure for HSV. I’m going to look into if I can get private healthcare insurance over here. Thanks again for reading and replying.

Feeling really low and upset today. Having an outbreak in a completely new location (under the head of my penis) and I haven’t a clue why. Normally on the outside on the shaft. Tried getting an appointment to see my GP to get some treatment but having no luck as they are backed up from the Christmas period which is frustrating. My partner hasn’t really asked me what HSV exactly is and she doesn’t seem to bothered either. But since finding out I’ve had major low self esteem. Do any of you know any herbal treatments for an outbreak? I have been taking olive leaf extract to try and prevent an outbreak and also reduce viral shedding but obviously that hasn’t worked.

Well it didn’t go as well as I’d hoped. :( she’s really upset that I’ve waited a month to tell her but it was out of fear, didn’t know what to do. Just wish I’d of gone straight to her when I found out as I think she would of took it well. Just hope that the next few days will be ok and we can get through this. The thought of losing her as my life partner is scary, really scary.

That’s what the sexual health nurse and my doctor said. I’ve read so many threads since finding out and most of them say it’s a non issue which now I realise that is the case. Just wish I knew what this was before we got together so I could of informed her before we got into a relationship and gave her the choice to be with me or not. I’ve waited until after Christmas so it doesn’t become something that’s spoilt the day, let’s face it nobody wants the disclosure talk especially not at Christmas. I will show her this thread and also let you know what happens. Wish me luck!

Yeah. I can tell she’s get frustrated with me. My thing is it’s easier said than done telling someone something like this. Wish it didn’t have this awful sigma around it because at the end of the day it’s a cold sore and I’ve had them all my life on the lips. Doesn’t change who I am, still the loving husband I’ve been for the last ten years.

That’s what I’m going to say I think. Only thing I can say, the truth. Hopefully it won’t break us up or change anything between us. Don’t want to lose my family over something I’ve had for 15 years.

I know it can be transmitted but I have both types. The STI nurse said I probably have hsv1 on my mouth and hsv2 on my genitals. Think I got hsv1 off my mother she suffers with them really bad because she has a weak immune system. I’ll have to print off some literature to hand to my wife to back up what I’m saying to her.

Yes, I have had codsores all my life and I know that the hsv1 strain can offer some sort of protection from hsv2. There is a connection between when you are ill and have outbreaks. But I’ve had outbreaks without being ill. I do hope she hasn’t contracted it. Actually talking to somebody who is/has been the in the same boat as me is a little comforting. Thanks for taking the time out to speak to me.

Thanks for the speedy reply. Really appreciate it. Yes, I noticed one straight after I became ill with a throat infection and googled what it could be. That’s when I went to the doctors and then to an STI clinic (mainly because my doctor was a bit dismissive of herpes her words were “oh it’s only herpes). I have been beating myself up about it since finding out and feel guilty in case I have gave her this. Do you have any idea as to why she has never had an outbreak? I don’t know what type of swabs she had done, all I know is that it was part of and STI screen and she also had blood take as well but I know how unrealiable blood tests are and swans without lesions aren’t good either.

Hi, I have been in a loving relationship with the mother of my two children for ten years. And I’m terrified to tell her that I now have herpes type 2. I have always had spots on my penis since becoming sexually active around 14/15 years old and never thought anything of it because I thought it was just ingrown hairs. I noticed I had one and went to get it heck out after I was I’ll a few month ago with a throat infection turns out what I though was harmless, wasn’t, it was in fact genital herpes. My questions are, how on earth do I tell her that I have this, she has noticed them a few times in the past and she never said anything about it, probably just assuming that it was an ingrown hair. And also, why have I not passed this onto her yet. She has had a few STD/STI checks in the past and all came back negative. I know in the UK they don’t check for herpes antibodies on the screen but she has had swabs taken as well (due to other lady issues down below) I can’t/don’t know how to even broach the subject with her because I think she will just assume I’ve been unfaithful which I haven’t and kick me out then I’ll lose her and my kids. She’s noticed I’ve been a bit down recently and keeps asking if I’m ok and she’s also noticed that I haven’t been anywhere near her sexually for months now and I certainly don’t want her feeling rejected because she has no need to, it’s me not her kinda thing. Just one last thing, she is on birth control internally and I wouldn’t be able to just introduce condoms into our relationship after all these years of never using them and she also wants another baby too at some point in the near future which scares the life out of me because I’ve read some stories online about women and their first outbreak and also about being preganant and giving birth with herpes. Thanks a lot for reading I hope to hear from someone soon.