Disclosing for the first time in years...

[lolo84]

Hi Guys,

 

Just stumbled onto this website a few days ago. I just want to say that reading all these disclosure posts has been extremely helpful to prepare for this talk. A little background on me: I am 30 y/o, I was diagnosed about 10+ years ago and learning to deal with this virus has been a challenge as it really did a number on my self-worth and self-love. I have both HSV-2 and herpetic whitlow and i am not currently on any suppressive meds since my OB are limited to 3-4 times a year (if that). I have been single for most of my adult life and now that i have lost some weight and started to feel good about myself, i am finally dating a great guy exclusively. We met through Plenty of Fish, he is almost 3 years younger than me and seems mature and understanding... Things have moved rather quickly for us and it's going so well, too well that its been about 3 weeks (2 officially as a couple) and i dont want to prolong the talk any longer. The thought of this is of course... terrifying but it needs to be done. I haven't had to disclose to someone in YEARS.

 

I read a post about someone who wrote a letter and it feels like the best approach for me because i always stumble on my words when nervous. I plan to read the letter to him but i may burst into tears since this is something very emotional for me. I have hope and a good feeling things could go well and herpes will not be an issue but the future is always uncertain. Any tips/suggestions/encouragement is appreciated.

 

Thanks :)