Just found out

[Young&confused]

I just found out today that I have herpes. I won’t know until tomorrow whether it is type 1 or 2. Right now I am devastated. The worst part is not the physical symptoms but knowing this is a lifelong thing and will impact all of my relationships from here on out. I’m only 20  ... I feel as though any boy I tell from here on out will want nothing to do with me. I know one day when I find the right person all will be okay, but I’m so scared of the in between. In the college hook up culture people have sex early on in “relationships” and this means I’ll have to tell a partner before I know for sure he is trustworthy.  Looking for some advice and insight 

[_a_rayofsunshine_]

Well hopefully you wouldn’t have sex before figuring out if he’s trustworthy. But since this is the world we live in, if sex is discussed and is the mission, then you should disclose BEFORE the meet up. If he declines, then he wasn’t worth your body in the first place. Don’t take the turn downs to heart. I’ve been diagnosed for almost a year and my life is fine. Told a guy i knew for years since we were planning a vacation, he ghosted me. Oh well. Told another guy, he researched, asked questions, & made the choice to still sleep with me. That was 6 months ago, so far he is still herpes-free.