andrea24

Thank you @mr_hopp! Im glad I was able to find you all That makes me feel a lot better, I'm just worried for my partner. I'm not that worried for myself but they're the kind of person that is very anxious, I'm a little more nonchalant so when we got this news they freaked out - and they don't have insurance while I do. I am actually not sure, the doctors office who gave me the diagnosis did it over the phone and was no help. Even gave me misinformation about taking the medication and who I should be "fine" after that first dose. Needless to say I ended up switching gynos. I am about to get blood work done once more this coming Saturday! I have a feeling it might be HSV-2 though, just due to my symptoms although they were really not as bad as from what I have read.

Hey y'all, My question is, is suppression therapy even worth it? I have tired to do a lot of research but I seem to get the same answers and I just want answers from real people living the same situation as mine. I know a LOT about HIV and treatment and all of that, due to my personal people in my life, and I know that there is this thing called U=U (undetectable = untransmittable) meaning HIV suppression works to prevent the spread of HIV during sex, so much so that you don't even have to wear condoms with HIV negative partners because there is virtually no risk. Now what I want to know if its the same for herpes? I don't mind using condoms, I want to make sure that my current partner is safe and that they run no risk, but what about during oral sex? I've been on valacyclovir for 5 days now, and only have 2 pills left. I want to be suppressed so I want to continue taking the medication, but not if it wont even reduce the shedding. I'm worried about shedding the virus when I don't have breakouts. I want to continue giving and receiving oral without being paranoid of giving my partner oral herpes. Please help, anything from your experience will help.

Hey y'all, I am new to this site due to my recent diagnosis. I knew something was wrong about 2 weeks ago when I started getting bumps on my labia, at first I thought they were ingrowns because of my recent (almost 3 week old) Brazilian wax I had. Well point being I knew this wasn't normal and got tested, my dr. assured me that it wasn't herpes because she said mine didn't look like it and she even mentioned that first outbreaks are horrible so she was "so positive" that it wasn't that. My first outbreak was more inconvenient than anything, slightly itchy, only pain when accidentally scratched nothing too bad so I believed her. My partner and I have been together for about a year and a half, and we've had an open relationship for about 4 months of that time, he hasn't slept with anyone while I have, used condom all the time during open relationship. I don't know if my partner was the one with herpes or if I'm the one that brought it on, its just weird that I just recently had my outbreak when him and I have been monogamous since January. He knows about the diagnosis and he just wants me to not feel like trash, and get on medicine so i can feel better.. My only concern is how effective is suppressive therapy? Is it like with HIV that they have undetectable = untransmittable? My dr was NO help! they even thought they had already given me meds when they hadn't, and when I was asking questions (over the phone I may add because apparently giving that info is no big deal) she made it seem like I didn't have to worry about my diagnosis after the physical symptoms went away. I had to do some digging and find out that you can still shed the virus. I just need help because IF my partner doesn't have herpes for some reason, I want to keep him safe. Those with experience, can you help out? Should he get tested as well? He has no physical symptoms (so far). Can we still have oral sex without using a dental dam? I just dont know where to go from here...