[If you've never had a genital OB do you still shed?]

The sore was on my mouth I've never had a genital sore. 

Ok. I missed that sorry. 💜

[If you've never had a genital OB do you still shed?]

I have both types and transmitted HSV1 through oral to his genitals.  I didn't have a sore at the time, but I got one a week later. I transmitted HSV2 to another person through unprotected vaginal sex.

@Notgoingthere. I would suggest always using a condom for oral because of what happened to me.   

[If you've never had a genital OB do you still shed?]

Well, dammit. I think my partner is willing, but I don't know if I feel good exposing him to risk.  He's so young and I'm so old. I don't want to hurt him. 😞

ive already transmitted to two people before I knew. I feel like I have a poison mouth and you know what.  

[If you've never had a genital OB do you still shed?]

Hi,

I test positive for both 1 & 2, but have never had a genital outbreak. Would I still shed and have a chance of transmitting with condom use? 

[Sex without outbreak]

I wouldn't without a condom

[Do you give it a second chance?]

I don't think I would be upset with him. I always expect rejection and if I don't get it, I'm happily surprised

[For those of you with HSV orally]

I've never had either of those issues. I've had it for 38 years

[HSV2 and other health conditions (esp thyroid)]

I was diagnosed with both type 1 & 2 a few months ago, but mine was not recently acquired. Around the same time I discovered I have multinodular goiters on my thyroid. My doctor didn't mention a connection. 

I am in the common age range of getting them, plus several relatives have thyroid issues. 

[Back on the scene]

Breakups are hard. Give yourself a little time. I'm sorry you're feeling this way. Hugs. 

[Back on the scene]

Yes I see what you're saying, but I don't have all that time to invest. It's just not possible for me.  

And on the apps, matches are plentiful, so it works. If I only had a few prospects, my method wouldn't be ideal. 

[Back on the scene]

I've experimented a bit on regular dating apps. I posted a thread here about my experience. My method was to disclose quickly after matching. That way I wasn't emotionally invested in the outcome. 

Bottom line--about 1/6 of my matches hung around. Some simply disappeared, but the remainder were all sweet and understanding. So it was nothing to fear. 

[Transmission rates if you have both HSV1 and HSV2]

I've been reading the "What's the Risk" info sheet and I was wondering--are the transmission rates different or higher if you have both types?  

If it matters, I get fever blisters, but have never had a genital outbreak. 

[GHSV1 to GSHV1 transmission]

Hmm. I guess I would feel genital is worse, but is it really?  

I will say I was married many, many years and I only vaguely knew I couldn't kiss or give oral if a sore was present. I just had no idea how potentially serious my fever blisters were. My husband never got it, at least never had a breakout.  Your boyfriend was probably like that (uninformed and unaware.)  And since it sounds like his sores pop up rarely, it just may have never occurred to him. 

You're very kind. My partner was furious with me and unleashed his anger full force for a few weeks. I can't blame him, but it hurt. 

[PLEASE READ! Mold was causing my symptoms not HSV!]

Oh wow. I'm so happy for you 

[Why?]

Vihsv1

On 12/28/2018 at 8:30 AM, vihsv1 said:

@sweetlove884 that’s one of the hurdles I’m trying to jump right now. I love to give oral, and the one time I tried to do it with a condom my partner said there’s “no point” as he can’t feel it. Now, I am the one with HSV1, HOWEVER. I am not 100% sure on whether or not I have it in my mouth or just on the ladybits. I have no idea how to be tested for it orally as I am no longer having outbreaks of any kind. I had captain symptoms orally along with my first outbreak but my doctor told me they were most likely stress related rather than herpes related. Kind of at a roadblock because I really want to do the thing but am very paranoid. 

I'm sorry for the late response. I honestly don't know how to tell if you will ever have oral sores. I can only say, I have both 1 and 2, and even though I've never had a genital outbreak I do consider my vagina "contagious.".   Yes, it sucks. 

I personally, if I were in your situation, would also consider my mouth "contagious.". 

[A few questions...]

I also have both types,but I've never had a genital outbreak.  I have had fever blisters many years and transmitted to my partner's genitals through oral sex. 

I went for testing and found out I had 1 and 2. I also felt dirty and disgusting. Like a whore, really. 

I'm sorry, I don't know the answers to your questions, but I wish you the best. 

[Never thought it would Happen to me]

Oh that's so wonderful. I'm happy for you 

[GHSV1 to GSHV1 transmission]

I know they always say it's safe to kiss when there's no sore present. I say bullshit. I gave my partner genital H through oral sex when I had no sore present. I did develop one about a week later. 

[GHSV1 to GSHV1 transmission]

I'm so sorry I got confused on the year. Yeah, I think I would wait a while and maybe talk to your doctor. 

 

[GHSV1 to GSHV1 transmission]

My doctor said I have antibodies built up, so shouldn't contract genital.  I would think you should be safe orally since you contracted genital over a year ago. I read on here somewhere it takes about six months. 

Now, please don't take that as authoritative advice. Lol. 

[Chances of transmission oral to neg female?]

Hmm. I don't know. Do some research. Meanwhile, I would err on the side of caution 

[For those of you who gave someone herpes]

MarsAttack,

I'm sorry you're feeling down and I don't judge you. 

Take precautions to protect your girlfriend. It sounds like she's a good woman. 

[Oral HSV2 sufferer needing advice]

17 hours ago, Completelyshocked17 said:

Also, if your partner already has it on his penis is no way he’s gonna be catching on his face so please don’t stop kissing someone who already has the virus. 

I've read that he would develop antibodies after a time, maybe 6 months. It's only been 3, so have been cautious. 

Also, are you sure you haven't passed it on?  They say most people have no symptoms, so how can you be sure?  

I know I am very paranoid.  Lol. 

[For those of you who gave someone herpes]

That's a good point, MarieH. Thank you. 

[For those of you who gave someone herpes]

How obligated to them do you feel?  

In my case, I gave my partner genital herpes through oral sex.  I was very uninformed about herpes. I have had fever blisters for years.  I didn't have a sore and gave him oral sex. A couple weeks later, he had a genital outbreak. This has had severe consequences in his life. 

I've taken the financial responsibility, which was pretty significant, provided moral support, everything I can think of.  

The problem is, I want to stop seeing him. He wishes to continue seeing me. I think because he believes it will be hard to find new partners since he has herpes. I struggle with this because he is basically a fuckboy who only gives me attention when sex day is coming up. I want more than that and I won't get it from him. But then, I think about what I've done to him, and feel I owe him. 

Advice, opinions?