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Thank you so much for your reply, I’m sorry for saying it the way I did I promise I didn’t mean it like that!!! I just meant free from any STI’s, which is how I should’ve said it in the first place. What’s frustrating is his doctor told him unless he has outbreaks they don’t recommend giving medication? Which seems odd to me, I feel like he should be able to have medication just knowing that he has the virus.

I’m a 23 year old F and I just found out my 23 year old M partner has herpes. We just started dating 3 months ago, and I was having pain when we had sex so i decided to go to the doctor. I found out that he gave me chlamydia, which was upsetting considering I asked him before we had sex if he recently got tested and was clean, to which he told me he was. Turns out, he never got tested since starting to have sex because he said he never noticed anything wrong, and he’s only had sex with 4 people total. After finding out about the chlamydia I told him that he needs to go to the doctor and get medication to get rid of it like I did. He went, and upon going they did a blood test which resulted in them finding herpes antibodies in his blood. He was extremely upset because he said he’s never had an outbreak, and he had absolutely no idea he had herpes. I believed him because of his reaction and it was a very difficult few days for us, especially because we just started dating. We talk about our future a lot, I’ve never met anyone I’ve connected with the way I’ve connected with him so I’m trying to be positive and not let this ruin our brand new relationship. I’ve always been very careful and I’ve always made sure I’m clean by going and getting tested usually after every couple new partners, if not every. I’ve also gotten multiple blood tests to make sure I don’t have herpes because I’ve always been seriously worried about it. When he told me, it didn’t seem like a huge deal to me surprisingly because I know how I feel about him, and his doctor said he has the virus that causes cold sores not genital herpes but to be careful and keep an eye out to make sure they don’t develop down there. I’m trying to find a way to cope, and I came here looking for support for people who have dealt with this in the past. If anyone could help me with their experience and how they dealt with this situation, that would mean the world to me. Sorry for the lengthy post, if you’re still reading I really appreciate it and look forward to hearing feedback.