Yadira
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Don't let herpes ruin your relationship! I have it and my boyfriend does not. If I ever feel ANYTHING down there we don't have intercourse BUT we make out & kiss a lot. I admit I haven't had an actual outbreak but I've felt prodome symptoms before and during those times we don't get physical but we do get intimate. There is a difference! Find other ways to please each other -especially if you love each other. Don't let this cause problems in your relationship.
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I take the Nature Made brand and I buy it from the grocery store. I take 1000mg everyday & haven't had an outbreak. I did a lot of research about it and it seems to work for most but not all. Hope it works for you!
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@j_avalon welcome! You have found the most amazing place to get answers, guidance & advice. Yes, you will have a meaningful relationship. I have HSV2 & my boyfriend does not. We have been together about a year now and our relationship is amazing. I accepted that I had it, prayed about it and moved on. Life is too amazing to not enjoy it. Don't beat yourself up about having herpes. So many people have it. It's ok. Pursue all your goals. Be active. Eat right and stay in a positive mind frame. Your thoughts can quickly change how you feel about yourself. I'm sure you have a lot to offer and one day you will meet the right man for you and he won't care that you have herpes. Ok?
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I take 1000mg everyday and when I thought I was getting an outbreak I took 2000mg for about 4 days and never had the outbreak.
Hope it works for you!
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@motoman101
Hi, some studies show that Lysine reduces the occurrence, severity & speeds up healing time for HSV2. There are several people on here that take it as well. Although just like anything else, it doesn't work for everyone. I tried it & it worked for me so I continued & haven't had any issues with outbreaks at all. I take the Nature Made brand. 1000mg a day.
Oral sex: uhhhh yeah! All the time Lol -HSV2 does not like the mouth area. Only 1-2% of all oral herpes is HSV2. There are many statistics to prove that. Of course you would not have oral sex if there are any signs or symptoms of an outbreak but other than that -go for it! Adrial even has an interview on here with a top herpes researcher and he states that oral sex is absolutely fine. Listen, in life there are risks. For us, we love each other & this won't stop us from experiencing everything together. It's not that serious. You need to think about the reasons why this bothers you so much & get to the root of the issue -If you really like her. Ok?
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@heartofgold -so you and I found out we have HSV2 the exact same way! I requested the test when I realized it hadn't been included and I was shocked when the results came back. The first few weeks were an emotional struggle but then I realized I am still the same person I was before. I haven't had an outbreak either. A few months back I thought I felt prodome symptoms but then I took Lysine & it went away. Please take care of yourself, get back into a good routine. Live your life. And don't push away an amazing man. My boyfriend is absolutely amazing & he does not have HSV. He loves me for me & is not concerned about a virus that may or may not cause problems. We are in it together & he is very supportive.
I'm glad you found this forum, it's super helpful!
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@victoriaxxx you're a beautiful person & you have done nothing wrong. Oh & I miss you!
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@Motoman101 hello! I have HSV2 & my boyfriend does not. I am always honest about how my body is feeling and we use condoms. I do not take suppressive therapy, I take Lysine once a day. We do everything any other couple would do.
Ask any questions you want or feel free to PM me.
Don't worry everything will be just fine. :-)
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Hi @lovingmyself2014 yes, you can & will have a great committed relationship. You first have to learn that this is not a deal breaker. We have it. We can't change that. My boyfriend of 1 year does not have HSV2 but I do. We rarely even talk about it. He trusts me that I will tell him if I ever think I'm having an OB that way we can be intimate in other ways. In the beginning of our relationship we researched together and learned everything we could about it. We have complete trust & that's super important. Over time, you won't constantly think about herpes because you will learn to relax & understand that this condition is extremely common & it wont hinder you from having a great life. When you meet someone you really like, be honest with him & be confident. I'm sure there are a million wonderful things about you. Don't let this one little thing make you feel anything less than amazing. Ok?!
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@adrianm
My advice: Get to know her better. Do fun things together. You haven't known her that long & this is a big decision. I had to have that exact conversation with my (now) boyfriend. It was scary but he responded with "I care about you & I don't want to loose you". We have been together a year now & he has not contracted HSV2 from me. Lets be honest, there are so many more things that make a great relationship outside of sex. Yes sex & physical time are important but what's the rush? Really get to know her. Actually date her. My boyfriend & I made a deal -we would go on 15 real dates before we got physical. It was amazing. We took our time, fell in love and then we became sexually active.
It's not easy to find someone really special, so if she is special to you, then date her & see how you feel about her after a few weeks.
I hope everything works out well!
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@WVSDancer2010 how common or uncommon is encephalitis? That sounds scary.
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My boyfriend does not have HSV2 but I do. We also plan to be together forever. He is ready to stop using condoms but I'm not 100% ready yet. It's comforting to know that he is willing to take the risk because we love eachother so much. I am not on suppressants. I take Lysine once a day. I've never had an outbreak (that I know of / i was tested last year and was shocked when it came back positive so I dont know how long I've had it) I would be interested to know how other couples deal with this issue as well.
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My boyfriend & I have been together almost a year and our sex life is amazing. We are careful but do not hold anything back. We completely enjoy every moment. This has brought us closer sexually. He takes the time to always make it special, sweet & intimate. I have HSV2 and he does not. We always use condoms but he doesn't really want to anymore. I'm not sure if I'm ready to stop using them yet but it's very comforting to know that he truly loves me and accepts all the risks. There can be great sex after diagnosis!
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I think we all had that fear in the beginning. That's a great link by the way! Very good, clear information!
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I did this experiment a few months back (with my boyfriends blessing -just wanted to get peoples reactions regarding H) and just like you NONE of them cared that I was HSV2 positive. I wish all young woman in our situation knew that there are so many amazing men that will still want to be with them. This is really just a minor inconvenience to most. Life is beautiful & we should ALL be enjoying it!
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I told my (now boyfriend) the same week that we met. We had a super connection and I felt that I needed to be completely transparent with him. No secrets. He had no hesitation because he felt our connection as well. It's been about a year and we are careful and he is still H negative. Learn to listen to that little voice inside of you. It will tell you if a man is worthy of knowing this personal information about you. I don't think there is a right or wrong time but I would suggest doing it in person. So you can see his reaction and you can share your vulnerability with him.
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I'm not on suppressants but I'm going to get on them. Want to protect him as much as I can! Yes we make sure to wash really good before and after each time we have sex. Always being cautious :)
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No prize for you! Lol I guess I was wondering what if the outbreaks happen under the "covering" ? Wouldn't that be painful? Or would they always happen on the outside? I'm asking because my boyfriend is uncircumsized (he doesn't have HSV2) but I do. We are very sexually active and careful. He has never cared about my status. We are going on a year now of being In a relationship and its wonderful that he hasn't tested positive thus far. We are kind of at the point where we don't want to use condoms anymore so I have all these thoughts now. I still haven't had an actual outbreak. Just a little confused I guess. I don't want him to have pain if we can avoid it.
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Hi all,
I was wondering, if any of you men know -is there a huge difference being HSV2 positive and being uncircumcised? I'm referring to the actual outbreaks and prodome. Since uncircumcised men have the extra "covering" can that make outbreaks more difficult to deal with?
I'm just wondering :-)
Thanks!
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Hi I understand totally how you feel. I also got tested for no reason and ended up testing positive for HSV2. I've never had an outbreak either. At first it was really hard to believe but I've accepted it and moved on. Have no idea when or how I got it. That doesn't matter anyway. We have it. That's a fact. I'm in a committed relationship with a herpes negative man. He accepts and loves me. If you think there is a future then tell him, in person I think is best. If you don't see a future then maybe you could just practice disclosing with him. At some point you will have to disclose. Don't be hard on yourself, it will be ok. We have Genital Herpes, it's ok. It's not so terrible. Just have to get used to it.
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I had little dots and blotchiness appear on my arms and I went to the Dermatologist. It was eczema. I changed my soap and lotion and it went away. Go see a good Dermatologist!
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Hi @beachluvr (I love the beach too!) I just had to comment & say your post made me laugh out loud. "At this point I'm ready to write Valtrex is for Herpes across my forehead"
Isn't it crazy how clueless even those in the medical profession can be about Herpes!? Goes to show you how important they think HSV2 is. I love your sense of humor.
So what did the pain in your stomach end of being??
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@StrongAndHealthy I'm glad you found this site! I just wanted you to know that you will find someone who will accept you. My boyfriend doesn't have it and he doesn't care that I have HSV2. When someone loves you, it won't matter. Trust me.
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You can have a perfectly healthy and natural childbirth and YES you can absolutely breastfeed! Im sure that @WCS_Dancer will respond and inform you. Please don't let this get you down. It gets better!
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I just did something UNIMAGINABLE!
in The herpes talk: disclosing
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Awesome Carlos! I love Univision! Good for you and I'm so happy when someone takes control of their life & changes for the better!