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@wcsdancer2010 touche.

Also a huge chance she has it and doesnt know, which I'm aware of. But regardless, no need to say something like that.

the other day a girl I work with (who is the same age as me, and also very promiscuous i must say), said that she had a pimple near her mouth and was all worried. She goes "omg it looks like herpes! ugh my life would be over if I had herpes, can you imagine!?". I was literally speechless. YES I CAN IMAGINE BECAUSE I HAVE IT YOU ASSHOLE. To be honest, this girl has literally has had sex with guys she randomly meets out, without condoms, on more than one occasions. Not saying this condescendingly because I'm not one to judge for this. I have had sex with like 4 people in my life and was always careful and I have herpes. It took everything in me to not smack her. Shes so ignorant, I would have said something but shes ridiculously gossipy. So no thanks to that. People are morons.

Hi Newbie, I'm only 23 and got my diagnosis this year as well. It sucks and I know its hard not to drown your thoughts in that whole "who would ever want to date me" thinking but you really have to look past it. It takes time to think positive but there are enough success stories on here that show that someone WILL ABSOLUTELY want to date you. You will have other relationships, just cross that bridge when it comes. Sorry to hear you're going through this, its really really tough in the beginning. But we're all here for you going through the same thing so don't forget that!

I'm 23 and had my first outbreak this year. I don't know of anyone else with this...I know its not exactly something people openly talk about but I've never even heard of a friend having it.

I got the worst back and leg pain with my first outbreak. It hurt to even touch my skin it was so sensitive. Now its more a dull pain every now and then, almost feels like a tight hamstring or something of the sort.

Yea thats what I figured, I avoided it for 2 weeks to be safe and all the symptoms are gone now. Thanks!

I have it too. type one prefers to be oral whereas type 2 prefers to be genital. because of this, having them in a different location CAN mean that the outbreaks will be less severe and you will shed less. Its not the ideal situation for the virus basically. However you can still have outbreaks, they just tend to be less frequent. All of this is dependent on the person though, as it is a virus and they dont act predictably. I got it 8 months ago, and may have possible just recently had an outbreak. I'm not sure if it was one because essentially i only had the leg pain and no blisters. And a little bright side of hsv1 is that most people have the antibodies to it already; so many people get cold sores or may have been exposed to it and formed antibodies already. The location sucks obviously, but in the grand perspective the virus is not that bad at all. More common than you think definitely. hope that helps!

My first one was not too bad, just two blisters about 8 months ago but really bag leg and back pain. About a month ago I got the leg pain again and even though it felt like there should have been blisters there never were. I checked constantly and nothing ever popped up. Still the leg pain lasted about 2 weeks, and although there were no blisters there was a lot of general discomfort. Is this prodromal symptoms or was this an outbreak? Do people normally get "outbreaks" with no blisters? The second I felt the leg pain I doubled up on acyclovir though so I guess this may have had something to do with it...

@WCSDancer2010 thanks, that definitely helps. I'm so embarrassed to tell him, everytime I even think about I start crying so its hard. I know breaking down in front of him isn't going to make it any easier on him either i dont want to scare him away.

I havent told him yet. He knows I tested positive for hsv1 but not that its genital rather than oral. Baby steps I guess with telling.....almost 90% sure I got it from him. He had what looked like a cold sore the day before I had my first outbreak and I havent been with anyone besides him in over a year.

I have a boyfriend who I don't want to pass it to. Only reason why I take them....it sucks.

I was diagnosed 8 months ago with genital hsv1. I'm love being healthy and in control of my body and ever since this diagnosis I have been so depressed. I feel out of control of my body, as outbreaks can supposedly just happen randomly. I take suppressive meds daily...which I hate. I hate taking medicine I don't need to take. I hate my body now and what its capable of doing to someone else. I hate the way I feel and I hate that I feel this way and can't ever talk to anyone about it. Anyone else go through this? I feel like everything I had before has just been taken away from me. Dramatic? Yes. But it's been 8 months and I still can't get over it. I'm only 23 and really don't wanna spend all my time despising myself like this. Help?

I'm just freaking out because we literally have plans this whole weekend and I can't stop crying I'm so depressed. I got over it for a while (i was diagnosed in march) but lately i've really just been hating myself over it. I'm miserable and don't know how to explain it to him....and what you said helps. I have yet to pass it to him in the 8 months i've had it, but then again I really think I got it from him so that could have something to do with it.

I have hsv1 and hpv too. I can't even believe I was ever upset about getting hpv, clearly never knew the worse things I had coming my way. The hpv has never inconvenienced me, the only thing that reminds me i have it my gyno appointments i have to go to twice a year instead of 1. Oh and also I caught mrsa from a roommate once. I'm literally a walking contagion if that makes you feel any better.

I had to click this discussion because the title is exactly how I feel. I told my boyfriend I had hsv1, but not where. I couldn't say it...it made me hate myself and want to live under a rock the rest of my life. I explained to him how common it was and that he could possibly have been the one to give it to me (my doctor told me it was most likely a primary outbreak because I had full blown symptoms...intense leg pain ridiculously swollen glands and sores) I've never felt so sick in my life. My boyfriend also had a very suspect cut on his lip a few days before I got it. I thought it was a cold sore, he said he and his friend were wrestling and he thinks it was a fat lip. Im 99.9% sure he gave it to me so I've always used that as my reasons for not saying the location...I take suppressive meds to reduce the risk of outbreaks and transmission as well. and now here I am expecting my second outbreak and I'm hating myself even more for not saying it in the first place. I have to tell him, I don't want to, I'm scared i will lose him. I feel so selfish, but Im so scared.

I'm 23. I've already asked him before, he said he wasn't sure. He said he would get tested, but he got a blood test for stds and didn't ask for hsv. I know they don't usually test for it so he essentially wasted a blood test already and I hate to ask him again. I hate that I have this so young I feel like my life is ruined. Dramatic I know but I feel so depressed.

I was diagnosed about 8 months ago with genital hsv1. I woke up one morning and noticed what looked like a cold sore on my boyfriend, and then 2 days later there I was in planned parenthood bawling my eyes out over the diagnosis. I told him I had tested positive for the virus but honestly didn't tell him where it was since I knew I had gotten it from him. I was embarrassed and essentially couldn't bring myself to say it without hating myself. Now I feel like i'm about to get my second outbreak, i've had symptoms all week and started an outbreak amount of acyclovir to try to stop it but I feel like I have to bring this up to him, as we have plans all weekend starting tomorrow. I'm terrified to tell him where it is, and now I'm worried about the chance that I didn't get it from him, and that what I thought was a cold sore on him wasn't actually one. How do I tell him now? I was hoping I would be one of those people who get it once and never again but that doesn't seem to be the case. I'm absolutely terrified to bring this up to him and I'm scared he's going to leave me.....