jasonswife

Omg!! I love this whole post!! Ive got tears in my eyes and Im so happy for you!!

First let me just say thank you for your wonderful story. You and your lovely wife are very blessed to have each other. 17 years is a great accomplishment nowadays!! Secondly, I love the fact that you used the phrase "pray tell"-lets me know you are not dull at all as you seem to be a very well read gentleman. Third, thank you for your service sir. My father was a Marine and served in Vietnam. Have you considered a career in writing? Your writing is very good. I thought all your little quips and quirks were very funny and entertaining :).

Hey everyone!!! I just wanted to say thanks to everyone:Dancer, daisies, willow and everyone else whose stories and funny quips I have read over the last month since having my first OB. I finally got back into the regular swing of my life-much to the chagrin of my homeschooled son; he thoroughly enjoyed his little vacay lol. But my other reason for getting on here was to get some moral support from you guys and gals because of something my husband had done. After our first intimate session after this OB he immediately got up and went to the bathroom and began scrubbing himself and said to me "I just don't want to catch what you have." WTF!!!!??? my tests came back saying that my antigens were negative indicating that I had just been infected with this virus and you are gonna treat me like Im a leper or worse?! By all indications he very well could've been the one to give it to me because he is always talking and texting other women and being vague about stuff, but then he's gonna go and act like Im the one who did the wrong thing?! Don't get me wrong, I still may have been the one to have gotten 7 years ago and never had an OB before this one but when I had gotten tested for stds twice before it never showed up. That crap just literally broke my heart.....ever since then Ive been in a funk. I have no desire to touch him or even be intimate and he acts like nothing was wrong with what he said. I told him it hurt and even if he did wash immediately afterwards it probably wouldn't matter because Im most contagious for the first 6 months(according to what the dr said and what Ive researched-I may be wrong) and everytime we have unprotected sex or don't take precautions he could catch it. Am I being unreasonable? And then he acts like if I don't have an active OB or a sore then Im not contagious. I feel like screaming at him that he can get from me at almost anytime and that if he is gonna sit there and tell me he's in it for the long haul with me-as if marrying me weren't commitment enough-and doesn't care if he gets it, then why act like an ass? Idk, it just hurt and I just wanted somewhere to vent because I haven't disclosed to anyone in my family and I don't really think their reaction will be very positive anyways.

One thing I did to help that Dancer and BabyKate have suggested is to buy a little bedside fan. I have one thats battery operated and I just turned it on, placed it between my legs and watched some Netflix while it helped to dry me out. Might be something to try if your doing your relax time and going commando.

Ok cool. It just seemed like this lesion on the inside was taking forever even with the salt baths and valtrex. Ive even started drying them out with hydrogen peroxide. Im gonna order some of that alum you posted on another thread in case of the next OB. I heard from the dr on Thursday and apparently I have HSV1 on my lady bits. Thanks Dancer, you have been a huge help :-)!!

So heres a weird question, geared more towards the ladies, this being my first OB Ive been trying the salt bath and hydrogen peroxide for drying them out. However, I have particularly large lesion right on the inside of my two inner lips and it goes upwards and inwards. Is the valtrex im taking for the next 10 days supposed to get rid of those? Or am I supposed to continue with the salt and peroxide to get that one and future ones like it dried up? Sorry for the graphic description as far as location, just really have nowhere else to go on this question. Thanks!

My husband and I were just talking about that daisies! He said"maybe this will be your wake up call to take better care of yourself" I had let my weight go for the last year and really didnt care about how i looked- u know, the women at walmart with their hair in a messy bun schlepping around in house slippers and sweats; oh yeah that was me lol:-D-so now Im having to listen to my body and read up on ways to calm this first OB and start helping my immune system. I found a really great article on slideshare called "37herpes facts you need to know" which I found to be a pretty good synopsis of what you need to know and it gave the pros and cons of the diff meds. http://www.slideshare.net/mobile/cortwein I thought it was a pretty good write up anyways. But certainly it could never be fount of information that this website is!! :-) I would love to go to the workshop but won't be able to. I can't wait to hear how it goes!! I hope you have tons of fun Dancer!! :-)

Thanks! And btw daisies are one of my fav flowers! :-) I know Im going to have up and down days cof awhile. Generally, Im an upbeat optimistic person but being diagnosed was something that blindsided me. The more Ive read and researched the better Im feeling today-and it doesnt hurt that Ive found a way to completely release in the bathroom without excrutiating pain ; Yea!!! Lol :-) Now I just have to decide if I want to use a pretty notebook or do it online ;-)

Thanks Dancer!! U and willow and this whole site have been absolutely wonderful. Ive been doing a lot-and I mean a lot-of reading and Im thinking about starting an online journal to help me sort through the emotional aspect you know. But once again thank you so much!! :-)

Yea, thats kinda what I was thinking.

Ok cool. We may just have to go to the zoo then bc the way Im feeling and looking today I highly doubt I will be done with this first outbreak by Friday or Saturday. How does one deal with the vaginal discharge? I guess Im lucky that I get to let lay around all day and "air" it out but while Im doing that I have noticed a whitish watery discharge sneaking out and trying to run down my bum crack. Im going to see if my hubby will get me one of those battery powered fans to help the dryi g out process and Ive made list of supplements to get. I was thinking to deal with the discharge at night just wear loosd panties and a panty liner? Also Ive read somewhere that people are recommending busting the sores to help them dry out quicker?!?! What is that about? Sounds sketchy and kinda makes sense at the same time. I guess if you had a salve to put directly on it once you do it then sure. Ugh, so many questions!! I guess its a good thing I was great at doing research papers in school lol.

Thanks so much for that article!!! It makes me feel a lot better. I'll probably let myself and my OCD out to clean a little anyways so I don't stress about it since stress is supposed to make the OB worse lol. As I just started my antivirals at 1000mg 2x a day yesterday and I have had this first initial OB for a week today when can I expect it to feel a little better. I have already made a list of some home remedies that I want to try to see what works best. My dr said this first one should last maybe another week. I just feel like I haven't been able to completely release everything when I go to the bathroom because the burning is intense. I will never take the act of urination for granted ever again lol :-). And Im guessing I should stay away from public swimming places. I am in Alabama which right now feels like im close to H**l and my hubby wanted to go to the waterpark this weekend with our son for the holiday weekend.

So, I just found out yesterday I have HSV. One look at me and the dr said "yep, herpes." She did a culture and a swab and I asked for a full workup on my blood-gosh, the lab lady sure did take a lot. Ive had cold sores as long as I can remember probably starting right arou x my first period at 11. I thought this was just a really horrible yeast infection made worse by being on my period at the same time. So, Im guessing since it's on my lady bits that its HSV2 from what Ive been reading on the site. My husband is being eerily supportive considering how our relationship has been for the last seven years. He would tell me for years that I caught something from this guy I had an indiscretion with 7 yrs ago because I have never "smelled" right again down there after that. I immediately went out and got testedd for everything a week or two after my fall from grace. That test came back negative for everything and then about a year later I was tested again when I was pregnant with my son who is now almost 6. That came back negative. I keep pressing the issue for him to accept me as being the one at fault because he had never had a cold sore until he met me he says. And by all the postings and reading I have done stress seems to be a huge catalyst to bringing on an OB. And believe me I have been in some really stressful situations where I havent eaten for days or weeks and never had any of this happen. So this leads me to believe that this is a recent acquisition. Now that Ive rambled on for quite a bit my main concern is my son. Can I give this to him? What can I do other than letting my OCD free reign with cleaning? I know not to touch anywhere else on my person or anywhere else period until Ive washed my hands after having treatig my OB during the day. But what else? Being a mother you're supossed to protect your little ones not hurt them and it would kill me if I did it even unknowingly. And also can anyone direct me to a list of threads for home remedies. This is my first OB so everything is horrendous. If I could walk around commando like a bow legged cowboy and keep everyone else safe I would but I can't as I homeschool our son and he's at that age you know. Thanks for starting this site. And for everyone that shares their story and experiences so those of us who are just finding out have a safe place to come to.