Hey all...
Three weeks ago I scheduled a gyno appointment for yesterday (Tuesday) so I could start birth control but little did I know I was going to want that appointment for other reasons. On Sunday night after having sex for the third time with a guy I have been seeing a month I found that I was very sore and it hurt when I urinated. Sadly, Monday night I found the all bumps, felt so uncomfortable, it hurt even more when I urinated and I had a discharge. When I went to the doctor yesterday she told me I have herpes and started me on a medication. I am still experiencing all the symptoms but with little to no movement I feel ok. It sucks.
With all of this I don't know what to feel. I'm upset that I let this happen to me, I'm worried about the rest of my life, I feel dirty and sometimes I just feel like it's a horrible dream. I can't believe I'm going to have this for the rest of my life.
If I was single I may be able to deal with this easier and just seclude myself but I don't think i can do that with my current relationship. We have only been seeing each other a month but I would feel horrible leaving him without saying anything and without telling him he should go get tested. My doctor thinks he may be living with the virus and just not realize it since so many people don't have outbreaks that make them think they have Herpes. We had sex on Wednesday, Thursday, Saturday morning and Sunday night and I saw symptoms on Monday night.... As of right now I don't know if I got it from him but if I didn't, I could have given it to him. So how do I tell him? If he wants to breakup that's fine but I want to be able to give him all the information I have and tell him that we could still work.
I need advice, both with my guy and in how to live with this...