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Wow, that is very uplifting. I hope one day to find someone that would feel the same for me. BRAVO!!!!

Thank you for making me realize that I made the right call in being forthcoming. I have been beating myself up all afternoon...I actually never even thought about the fact that this guy could relapse with his drinking. Anyway, I feel much better now and will maybe try the 2 websites mentioned. Now what is the website POF?. Again thank you...

I guess I need to check something like that out. I am on a "regular" online dating site, what ever that means. I had a date last night with a guy and I thought we hit it off wonderfully and had planned dinner tonight. I received a text from him wanting to share that he is an alcoholic but has not had a drink since 89 and attends AA and he was trying to be transparent. So.......I shared the fact that I had been exposed to the herpes virus and explained I had HS1 which is caused by the same virus as cold sores, which he stated that he gets. He seemed ok about it and we confirmed our plans. I received a text from him that after thinking about what I shared, he couldn't get past it and that we should cancel our plans......I feel like I was kicked in the stomach....is this how I am going to be received now when I am honest....WTF.... should I have said something different? I am really disappointed. I want to cry right now, such a let down :(

After receiving the news of having hs 1 this week and trying to read everything I can I am still a bit confused on a few things. My current love interest did get a blood test last week and I made sure to have him ask to be tested for herpes specifically. (I know that I got it from him). He should get the results back this coming week. My area of concern is between my butt cheeks close to my upper back. The itching is so intense. I am pretty fastidious with my personal hygiene and I do worry about a secondary infection. I have been on Acyclovir 400 mg 2x a day for 10 days. I believe it has helped. I also have Acyclovir ointment which was very expensive and hasn't done a thing :(. I did just get some hydrocortisone cream to help with the itching. I am going to take lysine also. Could my OB' s move to my genitals area next time or could they always be situated between my butt cheeks? If I have ob on that area and I am not having anal sex, which I don't ever partake in will i spread herpes during normal, whatever that is...intercourse. Doing it doggie style would make sense in possibly spreading it if I am having a current outbreak. What about oral sex, I am totally confused if I will be able to give it. I will never have unprotected sex again so I am guessing my partner will always have to have a condom on for me to perform oral sex? Will my partner be able to perform oral sex on me? I know these questions have probably been asked somewhere but to be perfectly honest I am overwhelmed with all the information.

Thank you for your words and those of others. After I received the news, I was shocked and I am still having a hard time wrapping my mind around this whole thing. I have a call into my healthcare provider because I still have so many questions. I am trying to do as much research as I can but the questions I have.....I guess what I don't understand is how this is on my buttocks. I have no genital lesions....my ex husband of 19 years did have cold sores so I guess it's possible that I actually got it from him however it was only after I was with this current gentleman that I had symptoms. He told me that he was tested with a blood test previously and he was cleared of any STD' s. He is going to be tested again and I advised him that he should have the specific blood test (IgG). He states he does not have any lesion' s. I do have some questions and was wondering if I could ask them here. It might be quicker than waiting for my healthcare provider..... I understand that even tho I am infected, I will eventually be able to be intimate but right now I am scared to death of that prospect (intimacy has always been a HUGE part of my life and I feel like I ha ve ruined that for me :(. From what I am reading, everyone seems to go through the same emotions, sigh

I am at a total loss, I am just beside myself,I am sick to my stomach....I just got a call from my nurse practitioner yesterday that I am positive for hsv1. I am 55 years old for God's sake. My lesions are on my buttocks and in between my buttocks cheeks not on my genitals. I have some lesions inside of me but my pap has not come back yet. I suffer from depression and I don't want to camp out in dark thoughts. I am angry with myself that I had unprotected sex. I have told my current love interest and he was actually more supportive than I thought which is a good thing. I now have to tell a past lover. I know I am rambling and probably not making any sense right now.