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Thanks WCSDancer2010. I will go back and push for my full report. I'm certainly frustrated that I should have to but you are correct. I have the right to have a copy. Bf will take a little more work. He's much more capable of just accepting and not burning energy on something he thinks he can't fix. That can be very frustrating but also very helpful for me as I tend to over think and over stress over things. I'll keep pushing until I get what I am do!

I was diagnosed with HSV2 by swab during my first and so far only OB (knock on wood) in November. I had a blood antibody test which came back negative immediately after the positive swab. I started my antivirals the next day. I just got the second blood test results back. Negative for HSV1. Positive for 2. I knew this. I didn't doubt this. Although my OB wasn't severe the prodrome symptoms were. I've accepted and am at peace with my status. Here's the thing, my bf of a year and a half went to planned parenthood and got tested shortly after I did. They told him he was negative but would provide no other info. I haven't been with anyone else since we started dating in Oct 2013 so I either picked it up from him or from my last partner before him. My doc originally said she expected I'd test positive for 1&2 with as mild as my outbreak was. Then she said she figured bf passed it on to me bc I would have tested positive for the antibodies if I'd had it before my first OB. Kaiser labs don't report the actual IgG number to the doctor or patient so I don't have that and again the only info my bf has is that planned parenthood says he was negative, however I've read that many places will tell you that you are negative despite what the antibody test says if you have not had an OB. They consider you "exposed" but we all know you are still carrying, shedding and able to pass it on. I don't want to put blame on bf. It really doesn't matter. But I want to have a convo with him to update him. Any suggestions?

I had my first OB the middle of Nov. (Swab: HSV2 positive IgG: negative/no detectable antibodies). My bf of over a year finally went to get tested and now we wait. I've come to terms with my status. I don't feel "dirty" all the time anymore and am learning that besides my twice/daily antivirals H is playing almost no role in my life. It's truly a relief to see it not be such a big deal as opposed to being told it's not all the stigma makes it out to be...but then there are those times that the stigma rears its ugly head. My bf and my bestie are the only people I have disclosed to. I was having a chick flick marathon with 3 very close friends recently and on the verge of divulging. Somehow the only thing I remember with certainty about that night was the moment one of the girls said in conversation about dating new guys "ugh unless he looks like he has herpes!!" Her mom is an OB/GYN. I was pretty quite after that. I did have an opportunity at work to try and squash the stigma in a conversation with co-workers. Although, I did not reveal my status I tried explaining in multiple ways how it's not the Scarlett letter it's made out to be. I failed at changing their minds about "loose people who are gross enough to get herpes." So now, I think I'm more nervous about bf's results than he is. I feel bad for thinking that things would be easier for us if he's positive. But will I feel responsible for giving it to him if his results are low? We've only had sex one time since my diagnosis, I'd been on the antivirals for a month but we use a condom. It was dumb but didn't even register for me until halfway through the deed. But perhaps he gave it to me, for which I feel no ill-will. He didn't know he'd never been tested. And what if he's negative? I get to have this conversation with my last lover...after I go through friends to find him because I no longer have his contact information. So here I am wondering why bf went to planned parenthood for his test bevause I don't know how long their lab takes to get the test run and results back.

I've been trying SO hard to manage my stress (I'm a higher stress person to begin with) but I've just about lost it! Mold exploded in the room where my turtles live so I now am having to re-seal, texture and paint the entire room; my oven died on me; my 2" sewer line backed up resulting in a visit from a plumber; I've had to sandbag my house to prevent it from flooding in the recent storms; I've had a 4" sewer line backup and flood my house on multiple occasions which has led to 3 plumbers snaking and video feeding my lines, a county crew digging up the back corner of my yard and cleaning their lines and then finally at midnight tonight a visit from a fourth plumber coming, checking the line again and finding a 10" long root that appears to have been the culprit this whole time and missed by everyone; I've had my initial OB and HSV2 diagnosis; and I've come up with pinkeye...all in the last 6 weeks. I'm a very strong, independent woman who owns her own home, lives alone and has been known to do things like install a hot water heater without assistance or any prior knowledge on such things but today I'm tired. My emotional, physical and financial banks are are the end of their rope but tonight I'm going to try and sleep a little more than last night, thankful for Marshall the plumber who was immensely understanding of my frustrations and the only one out of 7 professionals who could solve the mystery of the broken plumbing at RL Manor.

Thanks. I know these last few weeks are just a blip in my life but combined with so many other trials at work and everything falling apart in my house at once, I really needed a good day. A whole day with out feeling down yonder was about as close a win as I've been able to muster.

It may sound silly, but today i feel my body is having a successful day. The last 24 hours is the longest stretch I've gone with no prodrome symptoms since my initial OB which reared its head 3 1/2 weeks ago and that was with going immediately onto suppression meds as soon as treating the initial OB was complete. I was beginning to think I'd never go longer than an hour without the tingles and twinges!

CC1985, I told my bf of just over a year the day I got my swab results back. I was petrified and as silly as it was I spent the ENTIRE drive to his house coming up with funny ways to tell him. In the end, I cried and told him outright. He held me close and was grateful for my honesty and mostly that it wasn't life threatening. I didn't let the other ways I came up with go to waste. We even laughed over some like...turns out I was on the naughty list this year but Santa's not giving coal anymore. Or I asked for a horses for Christmas not herpes. Or someone must have been jealous of all the great sex we were having so they decided to find a way to slow us down. I don't expect it is ever an easy conversation to have knowing that it could end with unfavorable results but you won't know how he'll react until you've disclosed. Sending strength and resolve your way.

Oh what a wretched thing to say! I thought my doc handled it badly. I saw a doc who Id never been to before because my gyn was booked. He took a swab and said there was less than a 30% chance it was H, I tried asking a bunch of questions but was rushed out being told he'd call to confirm regardless of the results in two days. I was a wreck! Two days later I received an email that read: "your recent test for herpes came back positive, I'll send a prescription to the pharmacy." That was it. Then when I tried to get him on the phone he said "just take the medicine." I was dumbfounded by his lack of bedside manner or compassion even talking to me while I was crying. Smh

@reachinggeorge I am very newly diagnosed with HSV2 myself (2 weeks ago). I have also been in a relationship for over a year. I was petrified to tell him because all I could see was him leaving. Instead he listened to me while I cried and then in an instant settled my fears when he took me in his arms and kissed me. I knew before I loved him but KNOW now that when he says he loves me back he really means it. For me, I'll always be more afraid to be abandoned by someone I hold dear to my heart than by a new acquaintance. That's not to say that it won't be difficult; I can only imagine how tough it would be to tell a new potential partner but just thought I'd share my recent experience. If she is the right one she will accept all of you, even the part of you that snores :)

I won't lie, I was devastated by my diagnosis. I'd been married for a decade before I entered back in the dating world. I was under no impression I had contracted anything from my ex-husband but still went to my dr before engaging in any physical relationship and asked to be tested for "everything." I repeated the request before I began dating the man I've been with for the last 14 months. If course, now I know I wasn't tested for herpes. I know you all understand that frustration. I had sex with bf on a Monday. By Thursday I was itchy, not too bad then but it became unbearable over that weekend. Sunday I scheduled myself an appt for the next day with a dr I'd never seen before but I knew I needed to get in. By the time I went in I had unilateral swelling and one small lesion but didn't know if I'd caused both by itching the sh*t out of myself. He took a swab said I had bv, wrote a prescription and sent me on my way. Wednesday I had 2 more lesions and an email that read "your recent test for herpes is positive, I will send a prescription to the pharmacy for you." That was it. Nothing more. Nothing less. I'll spare you the details of my breakdown. By the Monday after my initial swab I had an appointment with my normal obgyn. She more than made up for the horrible bedside manner of the first dr. I know now I have HSV2 and I have no dectectable antibodies. I transitioned immediately from treating the OB to suppression meds and my bf, who is being supremely supportive, is going to get tested. The good dr said before the bloodwork came back she suspected that both bf and I would test positive for low levels of antibodies Which would explain my very mild symptoms (on day 7 she was able to find no visible symptoms, not even late healing lesions). Now she's thinking that bf is the carrier and the bv made me more suseptible to contracting it. I guess I can see that making sense logically Honestly, where it came from is a moot point, I have it and knowing won't change it. I've been on the acyclovir for suppression for one week. I am "feeling" the area where I had my last lesion daily. I'm also getting the tingle/achy skin feeling from my low back down my rear. These are prodrime symptoms as I understand it. From what I've read, this will likely happen a lot during the first 6-12 months of exposure while my body adjusts and builds antibodies. During this time I'm likely shedding, correct? At what point do you determine your prodrome symptoms have been gone long enough to engage is sexual relations? I know that the discussion with my bf could be different based on what his results are. If you are with a positive partner does that change how/when you chose to engage in sexual activity when experiencing prodrome but not OB symptoms? I understand logically how it's passed but for sake of easing my mind, IF he tests positive and we engage in sex and the next morning I feel the tingles, I don't have to worry about having passed it to him or possibly causing him the possibility of having an OB correct? Bc if he already has HSV2 his potential OBs aren't/can't be caused to occur by mine. I feel dumb asking such questions honestly, I just already have OCD issues and this is making it worse while I'm learning to cope. I had a panic attack when he kissed me after I told him bc even though my research/reading/educating has told me otherwise, I was terrified Id just given it to him...