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Oh boy.. The only thing I can say is that honestly in this case is probably the best policy (as I believe is almost always the case) whatever you do, don't make excuses for yourself and allow her to be angry at you and to have whatever feelings she has about it. Tell her that it was a mistake and that you love her and want to stay together, but be prepared for her to need space. My advice is to allow her whatever she needs to recover. People have worked through infidelity in the past, it's possible that you can too. The only thing worse than owning up to it is her finding out another way.. Your truthfulness now and how you choose to handle the fall out determines whether or not your marriage stands a chance. Goodluck, be well!

Very interesting! Thanks :)

Firstly, let me dispel the myth about being "clean" or "dirty", hsv is a VIRUS not unlike any other virus one can catch, it does not discriminate and people who have it are not dirty. But I digress, Im literally in pain knowing that you stayed with a man who took advantage of you, this person doesn't deserve you, herpes or no herpes. Your chances of finding Prince Charming are still as high as they've ever been! Trust me when I tell you this, there are many people out there who are loving and accepting just waiting to meet you. Some of the veterans on this site have some amazing stories as proof of this. If you haven't already, scroll through and read some of their stories. I really hope that this pain you feel emotionally subsides and that you realize that you are a great person and are worthy of love! Herpes doesn't change that! Please take care of yourself <3

You didn't do it! It's okay! You seem to know it would've been a mistake if you did end up sleeping with him without telling him - judging by the title of your post. Don't be so hard on yourself, urges are natural and you certainly aren't lacking a conscience. If you're worried about being in that position again, stay away from places where sex is a possibility.

@ihaveittoo I'm glad you ended up at a better workplace! Water is amazing, I feel that the majority of people (including myself some days) don't drink enough of it!

I don't know about anyone else but from my person experience I do pee a lot right before and at the beginning of an OB. The earliest symptoms I have mimic a UTI all except obvious pain in my tailbone vs the pain which is more front and centre in my lower abdominal region when I have a UTI. How did you contract hsv?

In the words of hamlet "ah there's the rub".. Stress! My BIGGEST trigger, unfortunately for me life is filled with stressors.. :( boo

Reading your story made me tear up in the best way! I'm so happy for you! :D

This is absolutely fantastic!!!!

Haha tea is amazing! The caffeine is minimal even in black tea, I think it's like 3 cups to 1 cup of coffee maybe even less. It's great that you have family to talk it out with, I've yet to tell my brother . I've told my mom just the other day and she seemed to take it well and was very motherly about the whole thing, there's a part of me that's afraid that she will treat me like I'm diseased when we stay in the same house though. I hope my fear doesn't turn out to be true..

@ann122 thanks girl, I think we're in the same boat.. I've been living with hsv for a little over a year and it's getting a little easier. This forum is helping loads and I'm glad I found it! Everyone on here is so compassionate and it makes me feel more connected, which is something I haven't really felt in a long time, probably due to feeling like I was keeping a secret from the world. (my hsv) Stress during exams is really tough, this is what I believe brought about my most recent ob , which I'm still currently dealing with. Key is to pamper yourself! Warm sitz bath and a tea works for me (even though I've read that ppl with hsv should avoid caffeine) :P

Definitely! Please do :)

Let's squash it! *puts on game face*

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/5295/depression-#Item_8 scroll to where @WCSDancer2010 posted the links..

My hair falls out when I take antivirals but I take them regardless when I need them.. I wouldn't do well on suppressive therapy mind you. If the skin is red and sore, there's a good possibility that you may have another sore about to surface. I recommend taking valtrex/acyclovir even with the hair thinning, you hair will come back as soon as you stop taking the meds and the meds will drastically reduce the length of your OB. Wear loose clothing and use abreva or something like it to reduce your external symptoms. @WCSDancer2010 linked me a fantastic list of herpes treatments in my latest post. Is this your first OB? They say the first outbreak is the worst.. From my personal experience, it's definitely true. You can definitely live a normal life.. becoming down is far too easy to do when you have herpes and even easier due to the stigma that surrounds it. I'm personally extremely grateful for this forum, I've only been here for 1 day and already see a drastic change in my outlook on life with herpes. Take care of yourself!