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Thanks for the info :) Seems like a silly question but i'm always getting emails and reminders to donate through my work, and it was always in the back of my mind "can I?"

Does anyone know if it's OK to donate blood with HSV2 in Canada?

Can us Canadians join this too? Just wondering how that would work with Planned Parenthoods and Health Clinics, publicity, etc.

So it's a rainy dreary day and I'm having a "why not me?" kinda day. Must be the weather. I'm not one for posting but I do creep along in the forum discussions. I'm having one of down days and just need to get my thoughts and feelings out somehow; and what better place. So i'm just about to the year mark where me and my ex split up and i'm reflecting on the year. Sure i've done some good things and got out there more but not exactly what I wanted to accomplish. My ex seems to have it all; new girlfriend, new job, moved in with his girlfriend and they are just blissfully happy and moving right along, next will be marriage and babies. It seems like i'm lagging behind, how was he able to move on so quickly and find someone else with herpes to boot. It's like he found her and that was it. How come I can't find the same happiness? Lord knows I want it bad enough. I'm jealous, angry, sad, but yet at the same time i'm not envious of her b/c I know the kind of guy he is. I'm ready to date, but not ready to disclose, so i've fallen into that trap of only looking for guys also with (h). It seems like everything worked out for the best for the ex and just the opposite for me and I'm still stuck in that "just broken up" stage and can't move on. It sucks. We also have a child so we're always connected, and he rubs it in my face that he's moved on. It's a sad spot to be in when you feel like you'll be lonely and all by yourself for the rest of your life. Sounds drastic but I guess that's just where i'm at right now, looking long term and not in the now. They say that good things come to those who wait, well i've waited....and waited. I'm just bummed that all the stars aligned for the ex and are just all spread out and all over the place for me. I don't want to be a single mom while he's playing house with the new girlfriend and I don't want to be lonely. boo me. There's alot going on here, there's the resentment at the ex for moving on and settling down, there's the feeling of being left-behind and left-out, and there's the feeling of a new woman moving in on my "mom" territory (nails come out for that one). Just a whole lotta bad on that side of things. It's hard to find things to be thankful for;I have a great child, I have a job, a place to live, clothes, food, family, friends......I know that's a lot to be thankful for but I'm having a hard time to "see" that right now. I even want to cry, and I can feel it, but no tears come...a good cry would be nice. Pink said it best in her song "Blow me One Last Kiss"...."i've had a shit day|. Something's gotta give, really though, it's just gotta.

I've come to realize that for some reason guys pull the disappearing act regardless of (H). I wouldn't take it personally and it goes to show that sometimes (H) isn't the cause of relationships just not working out. I've tried the whole online dating with (H) sites and it's the same thing; you get to know someone, you think it's going good, then poof..gone. Which leads me to believe that even with having (h) in common it shouldn't form the basis of relationships; easier said that done of course. Sorry if I'm generalizing and I'm certain women do the "poof" as well, but maybe guys can weigh in on some background of "the disappearing act". In my opinion it would be a whole heck of a lot easier for explanations. It's not you, there's just something that doesn't click, or they've found someone else, or it's distance, or scheduling, or maybe they're just inconsiderate weirdos. In my experience, i've tried the H dating sites and it's the same thing. That being said, i'm still not ready to face the possibility of disclosing, so I choose the dating sites and bypass that. I'm not one to post or reply to messages, but I felt the need to put my two cents in this fully loaded message.

I would also like a buddy, male or female. I'm in Canada on the east coast. I would love to have someone to chat with. I'm female.

This is a great idea! I'd love to have an h-buddy that's close by, or in my area anyway, male or female; no preference just someone to talk with or listen too. Thanks for putting this idea out there! Sign me up!

Hi everyone! I've been a member of this site for a few months now and this is my first post. I've had herpes for 6 years now and have had maybe 3 outbreaks during that time. When I found out, I was with my boyfriend at the time for only 4 months. I of course told him and he was OK with it, which leads me to believe that he knew he had it before, but who knows; even with protected sex the virus can lay dormant for awhile (am I right when I say this?) We stayed together and just recently broke up (8 months ago). He's gone on and found a new girlfriend through a popular herpes dating site very soon after we broke up. I've been trying to deal with the break up and the stress of wondering if I will ever find someone as well. Problem being I'm from a relatively small town in Canada and "people like us" are hard to come by. I've been trying to just live my life and do things for myself, but am scared to death about the whole dating scene. I know i'm ready to date, but how hard is it really? How do you go about it? Use dating sites? or just act nornal and play the field so to speak until you have to have "the talk"? It's hard because none of my friends know and they try to set me up with guys or pick out guys for me and I have to turn them all down or make some excuse; honestly having "the talk" terrifies me, especially being from a small town. What have some of your experiences been? Is it different in Canada than other places? I do get down a bit thinking about being alone and never finding that special someone, but on a positive spin even with all the stress and emotional rollercoaster I've had no outbreaks..so that's good. I have everything in my life in place, but just that one little thing holding me back from having it all. Any advice? What's next? How do you get past that feeling of being alone and that it will be harder to date (not that dating is ever easy)?

I am in the situation. I found out I had herpes about 6 years ago. I had met this great guy and then 6 mths later I got really sick with a bad flu. Went to the doctor and they confirmed it was herpes. I had to go and tell him, he was like "meh", which made me wonder if he gave it to me without telling me and made me feel like I gave it to him. Anyways, we stayed together, mainly because we had herpes and didn't think we'd ever find anyone else. It was a very trapped feeling. We've recently separated and he has a new woman, whom he met on a herpes dating site. I am now feeling very down because I don't think i'll ever find anyone who will accept me for who I am, herpes and all. We live in a small town so disclosing is not something that I want to do, and it makes it hard to find someone.