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@2Legit2Quit the nerve issues are quite scary to me especially since it always starts in my brain with that unusual headache. The one thing that hasn't gone away is the feeling of a rash even though there is nothing there. And that gets worse with sitting on hard surfaces.

So far so good with the essential oils. Hopefully that will be the case with any other outbreaks but this list is great to help if it doesn't. Thank you @WCSDancer2010

I had the neuralgia for about 3 weeks with my first OB. This time it's staying on one side only. This spot is more than neuralgia it started as a big knot/lump 2 days after the bike ride. That's going away but it has what is beginning to look like an ulcer on it...no blister at all.

@girlnamedhope thanks for your response. I'm sorry, it's really a miserable part of this. The pressure on the area is also what I was thinking brought this on because I was feeling fine until after that bike ride. The spot hasn't blistered up yet and the nerve pain is finally letting up. Will an OB always blister up?

I started with a bad headache like with my initial OB but only on my right side and initially it felt like a Chiari Headche (more of a migraine) then I got that sharp nerve pain in my head. And then yesterday I was getting some zapping or electric shock feeling kinda like when you stick your tongue on a 9V battery in my butt cheeks. I wondered if this was the start of another OB because I don't yet know what my signs are of one but the headache was similar and I've not had that weird zinging pain until I got hsv2. But I also went bike riding earlier this week and thought that may be it too. Then last night I felt like I was getting the flu. Took a bath in Epsom salts and got out to find a huge lump on my labia around where I had my initial OB in June. I put some Melissa, Melaleuca and Lavendar essential oils on the spot after blow drying it. Woke up in the middle of the night with my whole right side filled with nerve pain and the lump larger and a worse headache so I took an Excedrin Migraine and that helped the head pain. When I got my initial OB the nerve pain was the worst as was the headache but it lasted half this time and I didn't get a lump just the clusters of blisters. However I was very swollen because I had been torn during sex so maybe I missed that part of the OB. I know everyone is different and I've read how some people's OB's are the same while others are each different. Does anyone get the massive headache and the nerve pain? Those are so bad for me. Has anybody had OB's after bike riding? And anyone who is using natural methods to treat is there a better blend of oils to use? I bought the Melissa because I read the one study in Germany of that halting OB's. Thanks in advance.

Great illustration and point well taken. :)

Thank you for all the links and the different perspective than the one I'm presently seeing everything through.

I'm not dating the guy I was with when I first got my diagnosis in June. He was willing to take the risk of being with me sexually. But there were some things that showed that he and I just weren't on the same page and I was staying with him for the wrong reasons. Now that I'm on my own again the reality of everything is hitting hard. I have to disclose to more than just one person...anyone I think is a serious possibility... and I don't think I'm ready for the rejection. I already struggle to believe I'm worthy of a loving relationship and this just feels like it puts the final nail into the relationship coffin.

Hello, I would appreciate a buddy in my area - I live in NW Indiana. It's not important whether they're male or female, as it would be more helpful to have a buddy close to my age and/or maturity level. I tend towards introversion especially when I'm feeling down on myself. And when I'm in a mood I struggle to be positive towards myself and my having H, so the right buddy will understand that. I have a jam packed schedule during the school year as I'm a full-time college student working full-time, but I'm hoping to find a buddy that will work around my crazy schedule. And can be someone where we can hang out from time to time. Finally, if you're hyper religious I prefer not to have you as a buddy.

@Adrial_Mr_H_Opp that was very helpful, and a huge relief to hear that information. :)

Thank you @WCSDancer2010

@DazedNewbi thanks for the b-day wishes. I understand the overthinking. I have been using essential oils to help heal and deal with the outbreak. I'm hoping it will work on the next time since I'll know more of what to expect and this initial outbreak I was totally clueless about. No need to thank me. Glad we're not in this alone.

@DazedNewbi I was just diagnosed right before my 45th birthday so your post title caught my attention. I'm so sorry you got so ill. I was dealing with a lot of nerve pain everywhere on my body. I could barely walk into and around work and I had to be at work. I was miserable. It doesn't sound like I was as miserable as you though. I'm a bit freaked out about how I will handle future outbreaks - and I'm not a worrier. This one was really hard to get through, but I keep telling myself that I got through this one by taking it one day and one moment at a time. And I did make it. You will make it too. Just take it in the smallest bits that you can handle. Try not to worry about the future and borrow pain that isn't even there yet. :-)

@2Legit2Quit He let me know that his doc called him today and said he needs to have more blood drawn because the first test was inconclusive. I haven't asked for the paper copy of the results since his doc called him. From what I'm reading that means he may be building antibodies which could very likely mean I gave it to him, right?

Thank you for the input about the Chiari and HSV2 @MCSDancer2010. I had a very strange headache a few days before I broke out with my blisters. It felt like my entire dura was having the headache which concerned me because I thought I may have meningitis or something. I was under a lot of stress in planning a fundraising walk for an organization I'm involved with so I figured it was that. Now I wonder how much of it had to do with this initial outbreak. I'm just now not having all sorts of nerve pain throughout my body. I definitely see what you're saying about him wanting to walk or not.