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@2Legit2Quit the nerve issues are quite scary to me especially since it always starts in my brain with that unusual headache. The one thing that hasn't gone away is the feeling of a rash even though there is nothing there. And that gets worse with sitting on hard surfaces.

So far so good with the essential oils. Hopefully that will be the case with any other outbreaks but this list is great to help if it doesn't. Thank you @WCSDancer2010

I had the neuralgia for about 3 weeks with my first OB. This time it's staying on one side only. This spot is more than neuralgia it started as a big knot/lump 2 days after the bike ride. That's going away but it has what is beginning to look like an ulcer on it...no blister at all.

@girlnamedhope thanks for your response. I'm sorry, it's really a miserable part of this. The pressure on the area is also what I was thinking brought this on because I was feeling fine until after that bike ride. The spot hasn't blistered up yet and the nerve pain is finally letting up. Will an OB always blister up?

I started with a bad headache like with my initial OB but only on my right side and initially it felt like a Chiari Headche (more of a migraine) then I got that sharp nerve pain in my head. And then yesterday I was getting some zapping or electric shock feeling kinda like when you stick your tongue on a 9V battery in my butt cheeks. I wondered if this was the start of another OB because I don't yet know what my signs are of one but the headache was similar and I've not had that weird zinging pain until I got hsv2. But I also went bike riding earlier this week and thought that may be it too. Then last night I felt like I was getting the flu. Took a bath in Epsom salts and got out to find a huge lump on my labia around where I had my initial OB in June. I put some Melissa, Melaleuca and Lavendar essential oils on the spot after blow drying it. Woke up in the middle of the night with my whole right side filled with nerve pain and the lump larger and a worse headache so I took an Excedrin Migraine and that helped the head pain. When I got my initial OB the nerve pain was the worst as was the headache but it lasted half this time and I didn't get a lump just the clusters of blisters. However I was very swollen because I had been torn during sex so maybe I missed that part of the OB. I know everyone is different and I've read how some people's OB's are the same while others are each different. Does anyone get the massive headache and the nerve pain? Those are so bad for me. Has anybody had OB's after bike riding? And anyone who is using natural methods to treat is there a better blend of oils to use? I bought the Melissa because I read the one study in Germany of that halting OB's. Thanks in advance.

Great illustration and point well taken. :)

Thank you for all the links and the different perspective than the one I'm presently seeing everything through.

I'm not dating the guy I was with when I first got my diagnosis in June. He was willing to take the risk of being with me sexually. But there were some things that showed that he and I just weren't on the same page and I was staying with him for the wrong reasons. Now that I'm on my own again the reality of everything is hitting hard. I have to disclose to more than just one person...anyone I think is a serious possibility... and I don't think I'm ready for the rejection. I already struggle to believe I'm worthy of a loving relationship and this just feels like it puts the final nail into the relationship coffin.

Hello, I would appreciate a buddy in my area - I live in NW Indiana. It's not important whether they're male or female, as it would be more helpful to have a buddy close to my age and/or maturity level. I tend towards introversion especially when I'm feeling down on myself. And when I'm in a mood I struggle to be positive towards myself and my having H, so the right buddy will understand that. I have a jam packed schedule during the school year as I'm a full-time college student working full-time, but I'm hoping to find a buddy that will work around my crazy schedule. And can be someone where we can hang out from time to time. Finally, if you're hyper religious I prefer not to have you as a buddy.

@Adrial_Mr_H_Opp that was very helpful, and a huge relief to hear that information. :)

Thank you @WCSDancer2010

@DazedNewbi thanks for the b-day wishes. I understand the overthinking. I have been using essential oils to help heal and deal with the outbreak. I'm hoping it will work on the next time since I'll know more of what to expect and this initial outbreak I was totally clueless about. No need to thank me. Glad we're not in this alone.

@DazedNewbi I was just diagnosed right before my 45th birthday so your post title caught my attention. I'm so sorry you got so ill. I was dealing with a lot of nerve pain everywhere on my body. I could barely walk into and around work and I had to be at work. I was miserable. It doesn't sound like I was as miserable as you though. I'm a bit freaked out about how I will handle future outbreaks - and I'm not a worrier. This one was really hard to get through, but I keep telling myself that I got through this one by taking it one day and one moment at a time. And I did make it. You will make it too. Just take it in the smallest bits that you can handle. Try not to worry about the future and borrow pain that isn't even there yet. :-)

@2Legit2Quit He let me know that his doc called him today and said he needs to have more blood drawn because the first test was inconclusive. I haven't asked for the paper copy of the results since his doc called him. From what I'm reading that means he may be building antibodies which could very likely mean I gave it to him, right?

Thank you for the input about the Chiari and HSV2 @MCSDancer2010. I had a very strange headache a few days before I broke out with my blisters. It felt like my entire dura was having the headache which concerned me because I thought I may have meningitis or something. I was under a lot of stress in planning a fundraising walk for an organization I'm involved with so I figured it was that. Now I wonder how much of it had to do with this initial outbreak. I'm just now not having all sorts of nerve pain throughout my body. I definitely see what you're saying about him wanting to walk or not.

Is oral sex going to be the same as regular sex in that I can transmit HSV2 from getting oral sex?

@PositivelyBeautiful thank you for the clarification, that was how I was understanding what WCSDancer2010 was saying. He went to the Urgent Care clinic without me. He says the doc drew blood and told him he thinks he doesn't have Herpes. Of course, I'm trusting that he's telling me the truth. We had a long talk the other night and he asked me what I would do. I had to be honest and tell him I don't know. I have a long health history, Chiari Malformation, where having HSV2 could significantly complicate life for me. Of course that's all moot now that I do have it, I have to hope that it's not going to cause me further issues with my CM. And so I don't know that I would willingly put myself in that place. Because we are so new in our relationship I don't have love to go on which would obviously change everything. With that in mind I understand where he is at in not really wanting to put himself into a place of exposure regularly.

Thank you so much for your perspective WVSdancer. I had no idea there was a test that could show how long I've had this. I will look into the planned parenthood visit. And what you're saying about his intentions makes sense. As well as the super highway with the tear. The urgent care doc said he thought it was an initial OB but urged me not to point the finger at anyone. I get that but I also want to know if at all possible. Another thing that bothers me is that he has implied more than once that I have been with other guys while I have been with him. That weekend of the initial OB we were supposed to go out and celebrate my birthday but I was so sick and in so much pain I cancelled all our plans and stayed in bed. And finally went to the UrgentCare when the blisters appeared. But he kept saying he knew I had plans with others. So as you said maybe the good thing about this is it will weed out the men who are all about one thing.

Hello, I recently started having sex with my boyfriend. On June 4th we had intercourse and he accidentally tore my labia. My cycle started June 6th. June 11th, about a week after the tear I started having severe pain in my genitals, butt, and my legs. The tear wasn't healing and I figured my pain was from the tear. Then on the 13th the blisters showed up in force. I went to UrgentCare and they ran the tests from the blisters and put me on Acyclovir. I was diagnosed on the 15th with HSV2. I know we shouldn't point fingers at people because I have read that I could have been carrying this for awhile. But I'm a bit perplexed by my boyfriend's response. When I first mentioned my pain from the tear he right away asked if I had an STD. I was stunned that he went right to the STD. I adamantly told him no, because I've been tested (Granted not for Herpes), and I reminded him of the tear. I hadn't had any blisters or genital pain or anything, ever, to indicate I have been a carrier. When I got my shocking diagnosis I told my boyfriend right away and he seemed non-plussed. I originally assumed that he had a couple days to accept it so maybe it really wasn't a big deal. He didn't blame me, he blamed himself for not using a condom. I know this paints him as a not so nice guy, and maybe I'm fooled, but I think he's a good guy. I'm just confused by his response, it sure makes it seem he was the one who gave it to me, especially since this outbreak was within 3 weeks of our first having sex. I asked him about the testing and he said if he's positive then he must have got it from me, and maybe that's true, but then he said he possibly got it from another woman. He also said if he's negative then he'll being saying goodbye - which I totally understand. He still hasn't been tested, he says he'll do it on Friday (I told him on Monday) and he's asking if I'm healed so we can have sex again??? If he's positive what do I do with the feelings that he gave it to me? Do I let them go and figure it doesn't matter at this point I have it that's not going to change now? Do I go back to my exes and ask them to be tested? How do I deal with the fear of having sex triggering outbreaks since that's what seems to have brought this on full force? Finally how do I deal with the severe nerve pain? I think that's it for now. Thanks for reading and my apologies for being so verbose.