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I didn't even tell my best friends. And honestly the only reason I would tell them is for their benefit like beware!!! It can happen to you too! It's amazing how many jokes are made about herpes yet no one ever talks about any other std. Which just goes to show you it's all about the stigma.

Has anyone sought out hypnotherapy??? Before being diagnosed I had no ob or ones that were so little I hardly even noticed. As soon as my brain was aware of what was insideh body now they are constant and wet noticable. I do recgonize that im a little more stressed than usual but feel like I have no control over my body or the ob. I've heard that hypnotherapy can help with the two connections and was wondering if anyone had an experience or any knowledge on the matter. Im just feeling like it may be an answer for me considering how my body has functioned before and after knowing I have h.

I am 25 and very close with my parents. I haven't told anyone besides my previous partner and can't decide if I want to tell my parents. I am and have always been very close with them but I can't help to think that they will be sad for me. And I don't want them to be. So is it better to just keep them in the dark or does it hinder my ability to heal fully.... Idk

How can someone go from being asymptomatic for 8 months to having regular outbreaks every week???

Thank you. I decided not to contact him. I feel it could do more harm emotionally for me... But thank you kindly for the words of advice.

So I recently joined a dating site for positive singles. While browsing thru I came across a profile of someone who is in my area. Looking at one picture (a far away shot) I instantly recognized who it was. My long term bf of 8 years from jr high whom I loved dearly was H +. My heart sank and I was filled with all of these emotions I couldn't explain. How long has he had it?? Am I the one who infected my current bf. How could he not tell me? Do I call him? Reach out for support or answers? I'm just not sure how to feel and was wondering if any one had advice. We were best friends and remained very close but decided to part ways when we realized it was going to negatively effect our future relationships being as close as we were. What would everyone else do??? Thank you in advance

@2legit2quit Thank you. It's been one roller coaster of a nightmare. Some days I wake up feeling good like hey fuck it there's nothing I can do embrace the "opportunity" and then most days im just a ball crying in the corner. I bought a journal today, I think that was wonderful advice so thank you for that :)

Damn :( I'm just trying to figure it all out. Right now feeling like I'll never have sex again and the thought of waiting a year before symtoms start getting better makes me feel hopeless. Have you ever heard of anyone taking anti anxiety meds to help reduce stress and anxiety??? I apologize if im asking too many questions Thank you again jn advance

@wcsdancer2010 Also do you find that people have similar breakouts everytime? Like if I experienced the thin paper like cuts, is that what I should always be looking for? Or can it change from OB to OB?

Thank you so much. You hit it on the nose; I am literally checking myself ever second I feel the slightest thing. I appreciate your help. Thank you

I'm having a hard time being able to recognize if im having a break out or not. I feel like I'm constantly trying to check myself and always am unsure and the feeling is very frustrating. Are there any tricks of the H trade that can help me with this??

I never experienced an outbreak, but now I can't seem to get them so go away. I started taking vit D, C, lyson, echnecia, and am on valtrex. Has anyone ever had an experience where taking these things that are suppose to be helpful somehow makes it worse? I can't decide if I should go off of them and stick to what I was doing before which was nothing or keep going as it hasn't had enough time to set in and take effect. I was diagnosed 3 weeks ago never noticed an outbreak, but guess I was having them (very small, painless, and hardly even noticeable) and have had a 3 week long outbreak?? What gives :(

Thank you everyone xo

As soon as one clears another begins. I'm on valtrex and every other vitamin you can take that's suppose to help fight the virus. What am I doing wrong..... It feels like a never ending nightmare and I just want to wake up or never wake up. At this point I can't tell which would be worse.... Any advice is welcome. I know it's something I can live with, but not like this, not every day every moment

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Random question... Am I less likely to pass this on to woman im with? And by less likely I just mean percentage wise?? Sorry if that's a stupid question, but I just didn't know being that when I'm with woman our genitalia don't necessarily come in direct contact with one another.

What is the difference between taking a daily medication to suppress the virus or only taking meds while having an outbreak? Are there side effects to taking say valtrex daily? I'm just not sure what route to go, but feel like the daily is the best best to avoid outbreaks or exposure?? Any advice or opinions on this are welcomed. Thank you

I can't tell you how much reading your message means to me. I am so scared that I'm just down playing the whole thing because now I have it. Like I should be terrified, but because I haven't had an outbreak, I'm in some kind of denial. I don't want it to take hold of me and I want to continue living my life just the way I did before, but of course now ill have to have "the talk". Reading that you've told someone and they didn't run for the hills gives me a lot of hope! if you really like someone it shouldn't matter right!? I cant seem to find the will to tell my parents, but somehow feel like if I don't it will make it like I have some dirty secrete when really its just a skin rash like any other that someone gets right. I mean kind of. Anyways I really appreciate you reaching out. It makes a huge difference in my steps towards acceptance. so thank you :)

I've just found out and am still in shock maybe even in denial. I like to think I've just moved on to acceptance, but that probably isn't the case. I'm so close with my family and I tell them everything but now I just don't know what do to. I feel like they are going to look at me different act differently or just be disappointed in me. I got the virus from my bf who was unaware he had the virus. I was unaware as well and only found out because I randomly decided to do an std pannel test just because. Thinking I was just going to look at my phone see negatives across the board and go along with my vacation. I was so wrong. There it was plain as day POSITIVE. I tried to reload the page again and again thinking it must be a mistake. Me hsv but I have no symptoms, I feel great all parts of me. I wanted everything in the world for it to be wrong. I even convinced myself of it. Reading article after article thinking my levels must be low it's a misunderstanding. I am hsv2 positive and just can't do anything but cry when I think of it. My heart is broken and I just wish I could go back. Ignorance is bliss right. I know in my heart it's better that I know as to protect others from it, but I can't help but wish I had never known. Now I don't know who to turn to or where to go. Since finding out I can't even tell you the jokes that I've heard about herpes part of me just wants to scream in their faces I have it im that person and burst into tears. IDk I just want to know its going to be ok not just hear it's going to be ok but feel it in my heart. I don't want to be defined by this virus I want to feel sexy and desired and want to know I'll have love and intamicy in my life again. :(

Hey! What a novel idea?!? You've personally put me in contact with two lovely ladies near and far from me, and for that I am thankful :) I would like to offer up my support to anyone, male or female, who is interested in an HBuddy. This is code for, "Pick me! Pick me!". But seriously, I find that although I'm not the one to be shouting my STD status from the rooftops perse, I can and will do my part to be supportive through an email, text, phone call, coffee chat, whatever the scene might be. I've had H for 7 years this month, happy anniversary to me! Where does the time go?? I was a young college coed without a care in the world, until bam. Herpes. I was 19, and was sure my dating days were being marked with a tombstone already. I can read from the various discussion boards, that we all come from difference places. Some chose love over herpes and were left with the bill afterwards, some were duped by someone they trusted. Though it's not as widely publicized, I know that there are those of you out there who got herpes from rape, like myself. Can we say double whammy? I'd like to especially reach out to those people in this forum. We are trying to heal on two fronts and the more love the better I think :) Here's a little quote to round out my comment: “Your task is not to seek for Love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” - Rumi, thirteenth century Sufi poet. Much love y'all!! I enjoyed reading and found your quite to be inspiring. I have this thing where I pront out quotes that speak to me and post them on my walls or on my mirror in my bathroom. I think I'll use this one to remind myself what it's really all about. Thank you.

I am two days into now knowing I carry the virus. I don't want to feel alone. I'm in the az area and am looking for female or male support systems. I want to accept this and know if I had people who understand the emotional pain to be there with me I can do it.

I was having drinks with friends (that didn't know at the time) and one let me take a sip from his drink and when I did he said 'now you have herpes'. I so wanted to say, 'you don't know how right you are' or 'seriously, now you do'. But I laughed. He was German and German's aren't generally known for their humor. :) I needed this. It made me laugh out loud so thank you for sharing. Laughter is the true cure right