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Can HSV2 pass to the mouth from oral sex while having an active outbreak? Unfortunately, I just received oral sex without knowing that I had an outbreak, none of the signs were present, I just decided to look in the mirror and saw a scab forming. I'm not completely sure if it is indeed a herpes sore if it was a cut from the previous time healing over, but if it is, is it possible that it transferred over to my partner?

Ok yeah. I'll just look at it that way then. Thank you

Hey all. I'm back after some time and I can honestly say this isn't as big as a deal as I initially thought it was. However I do have a question. My boyfriend and I have decided we no longer want to use condoms because, to be honest, we both seem to be in it for the long haul. He understands the risks and we don't really talk about it unless we have to talk about it. But now we have to talk about it. Currently I'm not on my meds because he's away and I havent had any outbreaks since the original one in October (thank God) and long story short, I don't see the point in taking the meds. He said he stands behind whatever choice I make because he plans on making it work with me forever (I told him all of this and he's supportive) but I'm split on not taking the meds and upping his chances to 4% or taking it for 2%. I'm nervous. And I know he's an adult and can make his own decisions HOWEVER, I don't want to be responsible for giving it to him and I told him that as well. I do remember a post about someone only taking their meds when they felt it coming but otherwise, not, and having unprotected sex with their partner for years while not passing it. I'm currently at a cross roads, I want to do everything possible not to pass it but I also don't see the need if it's not acting up. My doctor also agreed there was no need for a suppressive dose but again, I wanna lower those chances as much as possible so I'm stuck.

Uh I'm fairly new to being diagnosed myself and I can honestly say, your friend will be ok whether or not you have sex with him or not. Put him onto this site because when I say it has helped soooooo much. I've only been diagnosed for a month and a half and while I do still have my bad moments (not days anymore, thank God), I'm mostly positive about it. It's literally a skin condition and he'll find someone to accept him through it. Also, a lot of what I've read has said the longer we have it, the less it'll rear its head and that we'll soon forget about it until we remember it lol. But as far as you risking yourself, that's solely up to you. There is medication that he can take to lower his shedding, i.e. transmission rates, which will cut the chance of you getting it in half. Since you're against condoms, his transmission rate will be 2.5% if I'm not mistaken. I'm sure someone will correct me if I'm wrong. I don't know what to say to this besides its your choice if you want to chance it or not but even if you don't and he does have it, be there for him. When I found out, my best friend was there through all my tears and feelings of worthlessness and one day she sat me down and gave me some tough love and after that, I felt sooooo much better. And like I said, this site in itself is a blessing. So if he has it and you decide to engage and get it too, y'all will both be ok. This isn't as bad as I thought it was when I first found out. The hardest part was telling my now boyfriend and he accepted me and it fully, hence "now" lol.

Hey guys. So I'm still getting used to this diagnosis and my initial HSV2 outbreak was a month and a half ago. From my diagnosis, I started Valtrex and did suppressive therapy, if you can call it that, for about 2 weeks, 3 weeks max. I then had a few tingle tingles down there but nothing broke through. It was nothing like the first run through though and I don't know if an actual outbreak didn't happen because I started treatment just in case or what. And I must admit, the initial outbreak was mild and I probably wouldn't have noticed if I wasn't routinely checking after psyching myself out. Anyway, I have a cold right now and I've been pretty stressed as of late because its finals week here in college and I'm extremely worried that I contracted HIV during the same encounter but through all of that, no outbreak. Not even prodrome. I'm only feeling a tingle right now as I type this and I think its because I'm thinking about it in the moment. Does this mean that I have gone asymptomatic or something else? I read that 80% of here cases are asym but does that mean after the initial outbreak or before? Really, the reason I'm asking is because I'm curious. I think I've come to terms with this situation but I still have questions that pop up in my head throughout the day. Thank you.

Does herpes weaken the immune system?

lol. got mine down the week after i found out, these nails are 4 weeks strong. no they will not break easily

Is it possible to imagine having prodrome. I've been having a slight sensation for about a week now. I've taken my medicine for five days, twice a day now today and have had no outbreak (espisodic treatment right now). The sensation doesn't feel like the first go around a month and a half ago and I've read to take the sensation as viral shedding but if viral shedding only happens a percent of days, it can't be that, right? Could I just be imagining it or is it actually prodrome? HSV 2 btw. Also I was reading up on some forum posts and saw that most herpes infections happen during asymptomatic shedding but how is that possible? Granted people who know they have virus are less likely to pass the virus because we can recognize symptoms and such but if asymptomatic shedding is so low, how is it still passed that way more than? And the stat is that there's a 4% chance of passing it during no active outbreak and no medicine/condom use so that also makes me wonder how it's more common to pass during asymptomatic shedding And one more thing, I had sex with the person I got it from twice over a two week timespan. The first time, it was unprotected(stupid I know) and the second time, we used a condom. However I broke out three days after the second encounter. Or immediately after the second time we had sex. I'm not too sure but I can clock the exact time I started getting worried was three days after the second encounter. It was a non stop discomfort. Then I broke out Saturday night/Sunday morning. That would mean that it was 13 days out from the first encounter when the tingle started and then 17 days out for the actual outbreak to occur. But it was 3 days out from the second encounter and 7 days for the actual outbreak. I keep thinking the unprotected encounter resulted in the infection since my outbreak was on my labia minora but I'm not so sure anymore because I've been reading that people usually have their outbreaks a few days after being infected (so for me, my second encounter, the protected one). This is starting to freak me out now because I gave him unprotected oral sex (stupid I know) during the second encounter so if I got it the second time, and not the first time like I thought, it's now possible for me to have it in my mouth as well, right? And I don't think I would be as worried as much if I didn't have a boyfriend that I'm trying to protect to my full advantage. He knows about the situation and we used a condom when we had sex but I don't know, I'm still worried that he'll get it from me and that's the last thing j want

Fron everything I've read and from answers from other people on this site, it's possible but a 1-2% rarity and if it does happen, recurrences is will be little to none and shedding is low. Like *low low*

Oh no lol. I know. No contact w the infected area if I feel something. I was referencing ME doing the favor. But all your advice is noted. Thank you.

I'm not sure if I will have outbreaks on my mouth. My giver has HSV2, I have HSV2 but that was confirmed through a swab. My blood work was negative everything so I'm not sure if I have HSV1 too or if I'm just part of the rare HSV2 in your mouth group and its frustrating. My initial outbreak, I had a burning sensation on my mouth. Nothing came of it but I don't know if it was because of my antivirals or because nothing was there. Now I'm having a less burning sensation on the OTHER side of my mouth that came out of NOWHERE. It was intense at first but now its dull. I don't know what to make of this and its frustrating the beejezus out of me

Sounds like a plan. Thanks again

No. My doctor took me off suppressive but I think I'm gonna start it again because it makes me feel better about it. And the tingle does mean to abstain right? Just to be completely sure? I've been monitoring it and no physical breakthrough yet. Well at least i don't think so. I can't tell the difference yet

@2Legit2Quit Ok so I have two more questions that I'll just ask here since you answer all of my posts anyway lol. I think I may be having another outbreak coming on but I'm not sure. It's a slight tingling sensation but I know it can just be my mind because my first one was like a *tingleeeeee* that just wouldn't go away but this one just seems like "eh, you may be thinking it's there." I just took my medicine anyway to start the 3 day treatment. Secondly, I feel the need to ask in case this is an outbreak. I'm currently seeing someone negative for HSV, any strains, and I know you can't participate in sexual activity when having an outbreak but since mine is HSV2 and if doesn't travel up into my mouth, can I still participate in *those* activities for him? And thanks btw, you and this site have helped a lot w my dealing w this. I appreciate it. *update: the tingle went away but I feel like it'll be right back*

I know I've been posting a bit but just trynna gather as much info as I can. I know it's extremely rare that HSV2 will be found in the mouth but what if my partner gives me oral sex, is it possible for the HSV2 virus to travel southbound and start breaking out on his genitals? I viewed the FAQ and couldnt find the answer.