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It'd be awesome to find an H buddy around the Cincinnati /northern KY area to talk to openly about stuff.. Preferably under 40 and doesn't matter if make or female :))

I hardly think trying to protect someone by taking precautions could be considered as bad as pretending you don't have it at all.. But we can agree to disagree I guess..

I didn't read all the comments, but I'd have to say overall I agree with Adrial.. However, I've had these exact same thought as hippyherpy as well. When you consider valtrex plus condoms plus no symptoms, the risk of transmission does seem pretty low. And let's be honest, disclosing is really unpleasant (9 years later I still hate doing it). The other point I wanted to make, is it's easy to justify this way of thinking after having a partner who basically lied to you and had no integrity. Taking precautions and not disclosing still makes you a hell of a lot better of a person than them lol.. Just saying hippy is not a bad person for having the thought, although I still think honestly is always the best policy ;)