officer195

I read many of the discussions since Ive become a new customer of this fine virus. Why do others seem to have worse ob's then others? Mine was a size of a fifty cent piece at the bottom left side of my penis but others seem to have it everywhere.

another question, when is it safe to have sex after an ob? I don't see any more open sores just pink dots that were once sores.

Question, will it always remain tender where the ob took place?

that wasn't meant in a mean way just to let you know.

Dancer, no disrespect but you get way deep at times with your responses. One might as well forget ever having sex for the next 5 years after the first outbreak.

I certainly have learned quite a bit about this virus in the last 2 weeks. I wish I had known about this site 3 years ago when I became more active in my sex life.

ok here is a question. If two people have herpes (a couple) can you have unprotected sex with one another or can it get even worse for both?

Agreed, it is all about choices. I played the hand that was dealt to me and lost. Should've folded and ran when I had the chance.

Then we and everyone else on here shall get through this together. One thing this has taught me is to slow down and stay out of the bedroom. God warned me enough times but I did it my way and this is what I have to show for it. The ol saying if it's to good to be true it usually is. When she offered I should've ran but I'm just as responsible and didn't ask for a full medical exam before having sex. The choices we make....

Actually I dated 3 out of the 5 that told me. Herpes wasn't ever the reason not to date someone, it was all the other factors that played in that kept me from dating them, young children, unorganized, financially in the hole, hadn't let go of the past. I'm still taken back how one individual could be so flippin selfish just to get off in order to risk another persons health, mine , yours and each and every person that has gotten it knowing that they had it. Blows my how selfish people can be just have a romp in the sheets.

I agree, being divorced and dating these past 7 years I run have run into many ladies that have herpes all of which were very honest accept for the one that gave it to me. The woman I'm dating now doesn't have it and I want that to remain that way for her.

I wish I could say it has been difficult, only for a couple of days. It will most likely slow my sex life down in a certain perspective but pother than that it is all good. God has a plan, could be talking to teens about herpes or adults, who knows. My head is clear, Legit. Thanks for your concerns.

Back at ya. I know plenty of folks that would take this over their cancer. Pressing on Dancer...

2legit I am not in fear of this, it is more of a hinderance than anything else. I've experienced great challenges throughout my life, consequences come with bad decisions, that's life. It's a matter of time to adjust, not asking God to take it away, but, asking him to make me bigger and stronger to overcome this and to be used in anyway possible for all ages that one has to ask questions, get exams, be in a solid relationship before having sex. I followed those rules for 7 years after my wife left me. But, I slipped up once and it bit me. Was tired of the dating seen, the lies , was working long hours day and night, it was Christmas and alone. Was tempted, couldn't resist, wanted to have fun without asking all the questions before hand, took the chance, enjoyed the moment and things happen. As far as my background, I work in law enforcement help to keep our communities safe. Dancer, thank you for your thoughts, there could be some truth to that and with that said I'm not going to dwell on this. It's done, I have herpes, not the end of the world, life is still great and God has a plan. We all have our demons, last week I was a wreck, over the weekend I adjusted, this week I'm pressing on. I'm 52 with a lot of life left in me, a skin disease won't keep me down.

Well we both agreed not to have sex till marriage so that issue is now solved. We plan on marrying October 2016. Should give me plenty of time to adjust to this new life. I believe what you said about friction is what created the outbreak, didnt have any lube at the time when the outbreak occurred. Things are healing up nicely, I'm thinking in another week all should be well by that time. Who knows though from what I've read on here. Time will tell and time is on my side. thanks for the feedback.

Life isnt fair. I'm just as much to blame as the woman that gave this to me. If I hadnt gone there, listen to my gut in the first place then I wouldnt be on this site and all would be good. I'm an adult, I made a decision to have sex without truly knowing if all was well. My mistake. As far as betrayal, anger and grieving, not happening. I forgave her and forgave myself, all is good. My thinking people should be arrested and their name should be publicly shared with the rest of the world so all should know that they aren't taking precautions for prevention so know one can get hurt. But that won't happen. Life isnt fair. Pull up my pants per say and move forward.

hey guys its all good, no worries. The person I had sex with said and did the right things in order to get off. She invited me over, made me a wonderful meal even took me out to a play in order to just have sex. Once I realized something was wrong and I was getting a outbreak but didn't know it at the time she suddenly went silent and never to be heard from again. I was vulnerable at that time and she capitalized on it. Nothing I can do about it but make the best of it.

I have gotten that impression from people that they relate herpes like HIV, insane thinking. I've dated couple of women in the past that were honest up front about having herpes never caught it from them. I only caught it because I wasnt told upfront and wasn't able to take extra precautions so it bit me. But, life goes on. It stings but I'm not going to stop living because of it. Thanks for your feedback...:)

I've forgiven the woman that had given this to me and forgave myself as well for not asking up front for a medical examination before having unprotected sex. But, why do people not disclose such a thing as herpes to another, is it fear of rejection, even though knowing they could pass such onto another person? Just doesn't make sense to me, what is the point of hurting another person? Just trying to wrap my head around it.

I had my first breakout November 23, 2015. Prescribed Valacylovir 1GM 3 times a day December 2, 2015. Seems to be much better the last couple of days, the sting feeling has ended now just sore. Curious when it is safe to know one can have sex again?

For tiny little holes they put out a heck of a sting would you recommend anything for that? I've used Watkins which seems to help a bit.

Thank you for your feedback. I feel bad for my future wife. I placed sex for love when I should've been waiting on love then had sex. It is like a nagging bee sting throughout moments of the day.

These outbreaks don't heal all that quickly do they, ouch! Is what the Dr has prescribed me a good product or would you recommend something else?

The struggle for me is the stupidity, I knew better. I was in a bad way last December, working 80 plus hours a week, tired of all the lies and bad relationships, dating and didn't take the precautions that I always have done in the past. I don't do one nighters, but I did because she said all the right things and it bit me, now I have to live with that faithful decision the rest of my days till God calls me home.

Thank you for responding so soon. I am on Valacyclovir 1GM. I had my first breakout as I mentioned previously Nov 22, 2015. I thought it was just a rash at first from to much sex but as the days went on it got worse. Dr. said by the looks of things its Herpes but tests won't be in for a couple of more days. Yes, I disclosed to my Fiance and she is ok with it. She is clean and will take all the precautions in order for her to remain that way. Life throws one a wammy at times, she a wonderful understanding woman. Any suggestions would be well accepted. At this time everything seems to be calming down, doesn't scream at me when it gets rubbed. Thank you again for your thoughts.