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Hey Cedar1122. I know its sucks but the informtion i read about curing herpes without paying money still doesnt seem realistic. I watched this video yesterday about this guy showing how he removed herpes from his body using ummonics, which is body gravity. I was like ...

Thanks Lelani. Your like my H best friend I dont ever see xx

Thank you. I felt the exact same way and tbh were both on the same page but its great and positivety is the best way forward. big hug too xx

I have an instagram account and I love it. Ever since I was diagnosed with HSV-2 I was crying and hating myself for all the weekends in every month that passed. I love Instagram so much and accessed my Play Store to find that Instgram had created an app with all these quotes about anything you can think of from love, to friendships, to life. It was free too. I downloaded it and looked at the category that may get me more in a happier mood. Life I looked at this category and read all the quotes and I instantly felt this positive feeling run straight through me and I simply just stopped or the tears and feeling sorry for myself. I came across these two quotes that I have kept on my phone. 1. "Nothing is permanant in this wicked world, Not even our troubles" 2. "Don't stress over what could've been, chances are if it should've been, it would've been, and would be" Reading this instantly made me happy and ever since I downloaded this app, when I feel im going to start pitying myself I just read those quotes and that bad feeling just erases my mind. I guess what I'm trying to say is that there is so much help right infront of you to help you through tough times but the most that can help you is yourself. Live life, be happy, life is too short to spend all the hours of a day crying over some cold sores. Pick yourself up, do whatever makes you happy or will help you to stop thinking about it and certainly don't go around telling people, looking for sympathy. Just accept that its a part of life and be happy.

I did the same thing on Monday was listening to what some of these silly people had to say. Honestly I wouldn't even waste my time because all the things you see on websites are scams and there all american websites. They have the use of these so called doctors telling you there is a cure but they never can just come and tell you what the cure is. There is always money and personal info involved. Lelani and Adrial are right live your life and if there is a Herpes cure down the line you will be suprised and also alot more happier but until then don't hope or even think that any of that bogus is true. The internet is full of inaccurate information (was told several times by the GUM clinic as I turned up there one day crying my eyes out cos I read inaccurate info on the internet) and I certainly wouldn't like to know that your putting your life on hold waiting for something that may or may never come. Think of it like this. Its a skin condition. Doesn't affect your health, it wont kill you. There will not be a cure in a hurry. Think of it like this also the pharmica are not going to spend money to cure a cold sore condition, It takes years and alot of money to do so (know this, my friend studies medicine). See it like this. A couple of cold sores that a lot of people get. Then think about those people that live with serious conditions, they need the cures cos there the ones that probably wont live as long as we would, so have hope yes I totally agree but don't put your life on hold. Its not worth it. But your post was very interesting though...

Thank you Lelani. Its people like you that make more more positive because you practically answer my questions for me and I always get a positive answer and it makes me feel so much better and thats what I want so thank you for your time.

U know something. Today and last night I kinda frightened myself abit. I was on a website about herbal remidies that can stop syptoms of an OB, for example drinking Aloe Vera and Pomorgranate & Dandileon Juice. Also I found out that oils and topical creams are probably not a good idea, only unless a doctor has prescibed you it and that is very rarely. But anyway ever since I have joined this (h) forum for the past few days I have felt to positive and so lucky that something like this has completley changed me as a person, like the way I think, act and just everything in general has really changed for me. Im not saying im happy I have herpes but what I'm saying is im going to be a happy 18 year old girl who is going to live her life with the additional help of 2 cold sore every now and again. Being diagnosed hith HSV-2 has really put me through pain but has changed me into a better person. As they say a blessing in disguise. Anyway back on the subject being diagnosed with Herpes also made me realise how important it is to practise safe sex whether you have an STI or not. In general all people who are sexually active should be practising safe sex because after my little dig around some of the things I read truamitsed me and scared the living crap out of me, u know i was sitting there praying I didn't have anything like HIV/AIDS, Gonnoreha and you know the... This really opened my eyes and made me realise that this time I was lucky, next time round I may not of been so lucky. And also the thing I think about now is, how far will my honesty get me, will there be someone who is honest with me about something they have or could I be silly enough to put myself in that trap again. Of course not. Im now to smart to ever be in that situation again. As a person I have now made a decision that I will always use condoms and I will only have unprotected sex when I decide to have children and tbh im going to use Christianity as a help here (not preaching) just saying that until I decide to make a little life with someone I will spend the rest of my life with there will always be a rubber on the end of it and yes, I may also consider investing in femidoms, when I know where and how to get a hold of them. Being extra safe now, not just for myself but for the one that i love too, wouldn't want to make another trip to the GUM clinic with another set of symtoms. I'd rather be safe than sorry. I don't want people to think im being OTT but as a question do you think i could lose somebody or make a relationship complicated by always using condoms? I know at some stage in a long-term relationship you will want to start having unprotected sex. What do we think? It's never too late to make changes. Stay positive and you will feel and be positive.

On Youtube watched this funny guy interviewing a young girl about contracting Herpes, then in the side link bar there were all these videos about people who supposedly found a cure for Herpes. I watched a few videos and it was quiet funny to me but as a person who not to long caught it i may be thinking there is some hope. I watch one of these videos and it does really make you wonder why people waste their time with these things. I mean what is the use of it. To make money and to make people feel even worse. I mean honestly it would be nice to try it but was is realistic about it. I mean i completely understand when people find out there that may search the internet for cures but none of them come free of charge.... and they always seem to have the proof aswell with the positive then negative test. What do we think?

Thank you. I wont let you down

Thank you so much. This website has really made me happy and see this as a blessing in disguise. Great video. Thanks for all your help

I just want to talk about things like the stigma behind herpes, what it really is being protected and stuff. There's just so much things, it really depends what topic about herpes comes to my head.

Thank you. Now that you told me about the liver thing I think I may just take your advice and take it when I am in a relationship, as of now its not really necassary and i have a good immune system to fight it off anyway. Its just sometimes its very annoying.

You know ever since I found this website I have madly obsessed with it and just writing how i feel and getting the responses have made me so positive in such short time which I am very thankful for. I was thinking of starting my own blog and trying to not just help myself but other people as well. What do you guys think?

I have been doing a lot of thinking about how to lower the amount of OB i have and also make the chances low of transmitting it to others. Im not sexually active atm anyways so thats no worry to me atm. I went to the doctors today to discuss with the doctor about getting a longer dose of Aciyclavor because I have had 4 OB this month. They don't effect me, its just itchy and irratating. The doctor gave me a course of 56 tablets (take them 3 times a day) but I don't know if thats even the right or effective way. I have to finish the course and then my doctor said if that doesn't work he would give me an antispectic cream to numb the area. I just wanted some replies on how people went about starting the suppressive therapy and whether I went the right way about it and some advice aswell. Thanks.

This is now when I probably feeling abit more positive or im just preparing myself for the near future but when it comes to being with someone who doesn't have herpes and you have an outbreak, how would you show your love without actually having sex? I mean I'm not saying its not possible but i'm just not creative in that way so how could you fufill something nice without infecting your partner at this stage? I also thought to myself I don't know why I'm making such a big deal about having herpes because my life doe not revolve around relationships and sex and when I think of it like that, to me it makes me realise that all my crying and stupid thoughts were pretty pointless because I'm basically saying to myself you now you have herpes no one is going to love you or want you, when that is completly untrue as noone in this world can look at you and tell you have herpes, only if you go around telling people. I just want to actually thank many of the people on here who took the time to read my discussions and reply because it has slowly made me lighten up and not take it so badly because really when you think about it, its cold sore in an unfortunate area but tbh one thing that also gets me through it, is the support of my great friend Sherwin who always tells me "i need to chill out and that its reality" and my mum who always says to me "don't get stressed, be happy cos if you stress out your gona get an itchy fani" that makes me laugh but it make me realise its not a big deal and it also makes me realise what a supportive mother and friend I have and how my life is going to be even better than it wa before. As I've heard, "herpes is only a big deal if you make it one"

Thanks Lelani. I think I just have to understand I have to deal with the hard stuff first before anything gets better but someone like you gives me hope in finding someone who doesn't have herpes and feeling comfortable and not worried about having sex and yes your very right that you can be creative and loving in many ways without having sex but im not a very creative person so at this point I wouldn't know, but thank you for your help. Made me see abit of hope in my future. xx

That article is sexy but very inspiring at the same time.

I am still kind of grieving over the fact I contracted a cold sore virus (see its sounds so silly to me tbh). I know its nothing serious but yes I know its contagious and that the stigma behind it makes alot of people feel so upset and hurt by it when actually in a way it is a lucky STI (not saying im glad i have it, it is just a lucky escape) because it doesn't cause serious health problems, but it is a nuisance for some. What doesn't quite get me though is that it is so common but there is no cure to completely flush it out of your system, whereas serious STI's like Gonnoreha have cures???? the answer to this question we will never know. I have honestly been thinking about this so much that I have come to the point of limiting myself to only dating people with herpes so that i dont have to deal with the "talk" "rejection" "stigma" and judgemental ignorant people. Those people were defintley not worth your time and even if you didn't have herpes they would still be a waste of time because Herpes doesn't define you. It defines them. I want to live happily with my cold sore condition. I mean I am still contemplating about only dating people with herpes because I am very scared about passing it to an unifected partner mostly and I am a very loving and caring person so I always put people before myself and I don't know if I would be comfortable being in a relationship with someone and feeling like everytime we have sex, I have to check 2 weeks later to make sure he has no symptoms and tbh I don't want my relationships to be like that. Maybe I'm thinking like this because I'm upset and till hurting or maybe im just overthinking. What are your opinions on limiting yourself and only dating people with Herpes?

Thank you so much and yes I would like you to be my H buddy. I just need to seriously get over it.

I am 18. I would like some advice and support on how to move on with my life. I don't mind male or female. I live in London (UK), Surrey. I need a buddy who lives in the UK, London who has (h). Its nice to talk to someone who is on the same page as you or has experienced it.

I was at a club in Vauxhall and met a 28 year old guy there. I was 17 at the time but of course when I go out I do not look that age. I was turning 18 In the January to come. The only reason I started talking to him was because I took off my shoes cos my feet were hurting. He was a nice warm welcoming guy who introduced me to all his friends and we danced for the majority of the night and he offered to buy me a drink. He had also met my mum and a good friend of mine who was with me. We ended the night with a kiss on the cheek. I had decided to meet u with him the next day as I had some stuff to do around where he was living. We hung out for abit and I chilled with him for the day. He was so nice and loving towards me and thats what I was looking for. After that day we spoke day in and day out to eachother for about a month and 2 weeks. We had met up many times in that period but we had never had sex as I wanted to wait. We discussed where we stand with eachother and we both were seeing eachother but we had boundaries as in we weren't to see other people or have sexual relations with others. I agreed with that and felt like I was in a nice relationship even though it wasn't official. I felt happy to know ok this guy is really down for me, he could be the one and this could possibly work. It had been 2 months now and I had decided to have unprotected sex with him. With all my emotions saying hes the one, he will make you happy, give him something you had never given another man before (first guy i had unprotected sex with and only 3rd guy I had slept with since I lost my virginity) I had unprotected sex with him. It felt right and I felt so good after. We had unprotected sex the week after. The same night I had left his house my genitals started to itch and my entry was burning. I didn't acknowledge it until come a Sunday night when I would urinate it would burn, i felt abit sick and then come Monday cold sores all around the entry and around my vulva. Bare in mind I had never heard of Genital Herpes in my life. I went to the doctors and explained the issue. The doctor had told me it looked like a urinary infection or thrush and thats what I thought it was too. I had never thought it would be herpes because I did used to get spots in that area sometimes but this was before I became sexually active. The doctor gave me Thrush cream and a pill to insert inside me and funnily enough everything going on down there wasn't so painful but the doctor then told me to go to the local GUM clinic to be sure. I thought to myself I don't need to go, I will be fine but I still went anyway. This is when I was tested. The doctor looked straight off at my genitals and said "You may possibly have Genital Herpes". I cried. It wsn't even diagnosed yet but I thought to myself cmon me why me and I cried so much when I came out the hospital I threw up, a man had to get me on the bus and get me home. I was a nervous wreck. I told my mum and she knew instantly I got it from him. She was abit upset but she saw it as a lesson for me and I knew I had her support. I had to ring the guy and tell him that he has genital herpes and needs to go and get checked. He went and got checked, and he didnt know who he got it from and never had any symptoms. The woman explained some stuff to him about the virus and we discussed how were gona move forward as he knew how distressed I was about the situation. I think if it wasn't for him being their for me I wouldv'e ended my life and till now Im not seeing him anymore but I still cry myself to sleep and think about how stupid I was to let something like that happen. I do blame myself and I have even gone to extreme lengths as to only date people with herpes or not have sex ever again. Sometimes I don't even want to be touched. I just hate that our relationship ended so badly because as soon as this whole herpes thing came up things started to change, but I blame myself for the realtionship not working because of my negativity about herpes and my misconceptions and how ive ruined the rest of my life. He was so cool about it and try to make me beyond the negativity but It just wasn't happening. I told one person who is a very close friend of mine and he was so supportive and I love himever so much for that. But it was a complete shock to me. I never thought I would be the one to get one. I just hope that I get some replies to inspire me and help me live my life and stop beating myself up about somthing so small.