JohnJay

hi sbrown! I have oHSV1, which I just acquired about a month ago. My understanding (I'm not a medical person, and this is just form what I now recently gathered myself) is that once you have the antibodies, the risk is very low of acquiring it genitally. However, I believe this takes months, 4-6 if I remember correctly. Once you have the antibodies I think it is pretty safe, though I'd think open sores would be the highest risks even w/ the antibodies. I've also read genital to genital transmission is very low of hsv1, but there also aren't a lot of studies on it either.

That is what the say. I'm semi-embarrassed saying it here bc I know people have it worse than I do. However, I reacted much the same you are and I still don't feel like me.

I have ohsv1

Sry to hear that. I didn't eat much for a couple weeks. I just got diagnosed in Jan

Not sure about the symptoms as I've just had my first outbreak. As for your last part, I think it would be advisable to let him know. I just got it from someone who did not disclose anything until after the fact. I think said correctly, and with proper information, it isn't as big as it seems. If you transfer and then tell them after (like in my situation), it is a lot worse. Just my two cents on that from personal experience.

Hello, recently diagnosed as well. I live in FL as well. What type were you diagnosed with?

.....are you sure he has it? He should get tested with a swab test if possible. gHSV1 to gHSV1 is pretty rare (at least from what I read), and you were on antivirals?

I think a handful of times hanging out should let you evaluate if it could ever go further. If it could on your end, then probably best to do it before everyone is ready to go and then it is thrown out there. It isn't fun either way. This is only hypothetical. I haven't even done it myself yet. I'm sure those that have experience can give better advice.

You are asking the wrong person for disclosure. I haven't done it yet myself. I'd say a couple weeks in. Hanging out 3-4 times perhaps. Before it gets too serious. If it is still casual, I think both sides don't feel wounded as much that early.

I'm really sorry to hear that. I think you waited a bit too long to disclose. He probably felt a bit betrayed two months in. You also have to accept that some people won't be okay with it.

yes and no, in what regards do you mean misleading/contradictory?

I just don't see how herpes is still considered such a big deal by people. If you make it in to more of a big deal than it needs to be, then it will become that big deal. Information and misinformation. It isn't curable, which makes it sound scarier. If you've seen some of the pictures online there is a lot of "scary" pictures which often don't reflect most outbreaks. People don't know they have it, or don't equate cold sores to it. If more people knew they had it, there would be a lot more acceptance and maybe more motivation for a cure. Heck, I'm bent out of shape over oHSV1.

Yeah, I have type 1. Doc seemed to say it was not a big deal. Well there are some good resources available. I have been using this and reddit, and been finding a ton of informative stuff.

Embarrassing more than anything. It also screwed up my relationship as she 1) figured everyone had it 2) didn't have sore, so figured she couldn't spread it 3) not pleased with my reaction over the whole thing. Plus, all the fun details like the shedding I've learned about, etc, doesn't seem like fun.

Things will get better! I completely understand about being private, I haven't told anyone either. How long was your first outbreak?