camilo

I feel your pain. I was recently diagnosed, my partner did not give full disclosure, but ultimately I've had to accept that I am responsible as well for not getting to know the person better before having sex, and ultimately, not having a blood test for both of us before engaging in sexual activity. I was carelees in assuming that everyone was honest with something this serious nd that something like this would never happen to me.

The answer to this might be obvious for some but I have a long history of chronic depression which has caused a lot of worry in my family, in particular with my parents who are in their late seventies. I'm afraid if I disclose this to them it's going to cause them additional grief and they are not in great health. I don't want to put that on them, but at the same time I don't want to be dishonest and live a lie. I'm much more inclined not to tell them. I have told my one sister who has always been the one to share my most private troubles with.

Since HSV is so devastating to people emotionally, and sometimes physically, why is it not part of the standard STD test?

Thank you for the thoughtful response, it helps a lot.

I know it is easier for a guy to pass HSV on to a woman, so is it realistic for me to ask out a woman when realistically we won't be able to have sex.

Thank you for the clarifucation, Still. You are right, it is confusing. My blood test wad 1,19 positive. I am being tested againg in 6 weeks. But i had a rash in the genital area with no blisters and the woman I had sex disclosed her ex had herpes, after we had sex. I am just holding out some hope. And I know what you mean about disclosur My initial reaction was the one to share it to the world to get rid of the stigma but the problem is even though I have herpes I still have the same jaundiced view of herpes as I had before I got it. So I feel your grief. I have lived with chronic depression my whole life and I didn't think I could get much lower than that disease.

You say you tested positive in 2009 and negative last year. Does that mean you dont actually have herpes? The first test wad wrong?

Thank you, Sil.

I dont understand. Thats like a complex LSAT word problem. Could you explain in simpler terms? Thank you.

Thank you for your thoughtful response. How someone could not share the information if they knew it, is beyond my comprehension, regardless of the fear, knowing the ramifications. And again you're right, that I will likely never know. It's probably less about forgiving someone than it is about accepting responsibility for my own mistake. The only true way to protect yourself is to take your potential partner to a clinic and have your blood test taken right then and there, and even then there's no assurance that they're not seeing someone on the side. It would be great if this message would get out more effectively into our sex-obsessed culture.

As someone who has had chronic depression my whole life and just recently got herpes 2, I would say be sure to check with the psychiatrist first before going on antidepressants. They are very powerful drugs and should not be fooled with if you're just going through a bad spot of the blues. I am on the antidepressant called Pristiq and it has is saved my life but I truly needed it because I was non-functional, unable to even get out of bed. I would say not to get on antidepressants unless you're completely non-functional but again you really need to see a psychiatrist so that they can properly diagnose you. And if you ever do go on antidepressants and you end up getting off of them later come off them slowly. I am trying to put a positive spin that on paper looks like completely hopeless situation taking the antidepressant really takes the edge off your sex drive, for men, it pretty much makes them impotent. I've only had herpes 2 for a few weeks now so I can't say how the antidepressant has affected it. My outbreak was an itchy rash on my scrotum with no blisters.

They say that one in five people have herpes 2, but how would they know that if supposedly 80% of the people don't know they have it?

The woman who I apparently got herpes from said she didn't have it. But then latet told me she "rememberedc that her ex-husband had it and they were together for many years. They had a child together. So my question is when women are pregnant do they get tested for herpes? She is in the medical field so I would think she would know that if her husband had it she would have a good chance of having it and passing it on to others.