I would like to know if it was a swab test or Igg as well. Your story is almost similar to mine except that I still don't know who my giver is. I was in a 6 year relationship then ex and I broke up for 3 months. During the 3 months I slept with a friend unprotected. My ex and I got back together and friend moved on, he's now living in California. Mine didn't happen soon but first OB almost 6-10 months later. I never had any symptoms of HSV in my entire life. Ex won't get tested and denies any symptoms. Friend we never talked again. I was devastated, didn't go to work, cried all the time. Till this day I'm still coping but it has gotten a little better. Takes time and you and him will go thru all the levels of emotions.
I have to keep reminding myself it doesn't change me as a person.