Disclosing/intimacy talk

[DoesntDefineMe]

Hello! 

 

So I have the handout for the disclosure talk but I wanted some input on taking this discussion further. I know that if someone had brought this up to me, I would have questions regarding having sex. So here are some questions I want to be prepared to answer:

 

1. Can you transmit to a partner if they are touching your genital area with their hands while you are shedding? Precautions to take to reduce risk?

2. Can an HSV2- person perform oral sex on an HSV2+ person? What precautions could we take to reduce risk.

3. Has anyone ever used a female condom, and if so what’s your opinion on them? Comfortable? Awkward? Would like both male a female perspectives if possible!

I know we are able to live normal lives with the intimacy that we deserve but are there any serious precautions that one may not know of that I need to take before having sex with an HSV2- partner? I just want to make sure I am doing my absolute best to keep them safe. I also want to enjoy it without worrying and being paranoid.

 

thanks!

 

[Worriedgal89]

1. Technically I think you could cause herpes Whitlow , although I think it is probably pretty rare. Sorry I don't know exact statistics , but assuming the virus much prefers mucus membranes . You could make sure the hands don't have any cuts or abrasions , use a barrier method if you really want. You wouldn't spread the virus to their genitals through the hand though obviously , unless they quickly rubbed your juices onto themselves , although that would also probably be pretty rare. 

2. From my research hsv2 much prefers the genitals and it would be hard to transmit orally , although it does happen and is possible .. I think the risk is low , again a barrier method if you are really worried. 

3. Haven't used a female condom sorry , but assuming it would be krinkly haha. I'm sure it's not that bad. 

I think going on daily suppressive therapy along with consistent condom use should lower the chances of transmission to about 2-4 % per year or lower . I would recommend asking these questions on Westover heights to Terri Warren . Then you can show your partner an expert's opinion on these topics. Also get your partner a blood test if you haven't already to make sure she doesn't already have it .. I'm sure you already did this .