Did you still get diagnosed - even after taking all the precautions??

[Gemms28]

I'm a negative HSV2 female, educating myself prior to engaging in a new relationship with a positive HSV2 male. I've read so so so many fantastic success stories of discordant couples that have gone on to have several months / years / decades of not transmitting the virus after using precautions. The precautions I am interested in engaging in are condoms, daily suppressant medication (him) and not engaging in sexual activity during a flare up. These stories and personal accounts are all really great to read and looking at the low transmission rate statistics when engaging in these precautions also help to remain positive. 

I would really love though, to hear from those that might be on the other end of the scale. Those that DID use all the precautions, but still ended up transmitting, or being transmitted to. Is there anyone out there that can speak of their experience in this scenario? How long into using precautionary measures did it occur? how often did you engage in sexual activity? How did you feel having known you did your best to avoid transmission yet it still occurred? Did this hurt you emotionally or mentally? 

Thank you. 

[chapstick1520]

In addition to here, I would also recommend posting on r/hsvpositive or r/herpesquestions on reddit. 

I'm an HSVpositive male and would be happy to answer any questions.