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So, I was just told that I have herpes after I had some bumps on my vagina. The night before, I had intercourse with my boyfriend and the condom got stuck... but I though I was having an allergic reaction to the latex cause after i experienced inflamtion and redness. Next morning woke up with the bumps and was told it was herpes. I had my boyfriend get tested and he was negative, and he's the only person I've been with!

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Hi Lili,


Thanks for reaching out. This is a tricky thing. Herpes can lie dormant in your body for quite a while before you have an actual outbreak. I was originally exposed to herpes and it took years before my first outbreak. Your boyfriend who got tested, is this the ONLY guy you've EVER been with? It's quite possible that either you got herpes from a previous boyfriend, even years ago. And it's also possible that your boyfriend's test was a false negative. I assume he got the IgG test or the Western Blot? It takes weeks for the body to build up enough antibodies to show up in a blood test, he may have gotten it recently and then exposed you to it ... As you can see, it's a tricky thing to start wondering who gave what to who. Ultimately, the important thing is that now that you have it, how are you coping with it? How are you feeling about it? How are you treating yourself in this process?


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