My bf just told me he has H.

[SweetAsSugar]

I'm negative so I have lots of questions. I've read a lot of the posts on here and I'm no longer ignorant about how it all works. My question is more about how it works exactly if we want to have children, which he's already said he wants soon. To be with him and start our lives together, do I pretty much have to accept the fact that I might end up with herpes? Is there anything else I need to know about seriously marrying my bf and starting a family? I love him so I want to be with him. Any input would be appreciated.

[msmee]

Hi, you aren't guaranteed herpes it doesn't work like that. If he's on antivirals your risk is down to about 5% I believe. Children are definitely an option, you would want to let your doctor know that your partner is positive and they'll go from there. Being with him doesn't guarantee you'll get it. Also if he knows when an outbreak is coming you guys can abstain. I've read many posts on this site about couples with children that are not both positive.