How to tell him..

[LuckyCharms]

So a few weeks ago I finally ended things with my ex, the guy that gave me this. And I just met a new guy that I really really like and he's so sweet and caring and I really want this to work out. I was talking to another guy before this one and things got a little carried away and I had to stop him before things got too far and then had to tell him why. Well needless to say, he never called me back after that. I wasn't really surprised but it still kinda hurt. I'm really worried about how to tell this guy and not scare him off. This is the first time in the 2 and a half years that I've had to really worry about it. I need some advice on how to tell him without freaking him out and scaring him away.

[WCSDancer2010]

I have to get to bed but I wanted to give a short answer and come back later with more ... but I suggest you read all the Success Stories that you can. There's TONS of great stories including how they told their partners. So that's a good place to start.

 

Also, read the links below esp the Wingman link ... you see, if the guy ran that fast, he was likely more interested in getting INTO you than getting into YOU... and H will show you what the other person's intentions are ...

 

One of the biggest things to lead with is to tell them that you have something you need to share with them, because you care about them and you respect them and you want to give them the CHOICE to continue to see you... that right there will garner the respect from the other person if they are really wanting to get to know YOU ... and while it doesn't guarantee they will stay, it will make it more likely that they will at least get educated, and will think long and hard about exactly how they feel about you and a future with you... ;)

 

So start with the Success Stories and these links, and we'll go from there:

 

http://supporttruthanddialog.com/using-herpes-as-your-wingman/

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/5897/my-first-disclosure-story#latest Wingman example

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/3309/successful-herpes-disclosure-but-not-for-the-reasons-you-might-think (Herpes Wingman example Mazedaze818 )

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/6347/my-disclosure-story 2 very different reactions … but both are “successful” in their own ways :)

 

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