Ponyboy has nothing on how outside I feel...

[Shopgirl]

I found out I had (h) a few months ago. The weird thing is I automatically disclosed to my partner at the time and he was fine with it. We dated for a while and it just didn't work out. But he was the first person I told out of a very small circle. So when we broke up it was harder because I lost my confidant too. My family doesn't know. I don't think they'll understand. They're great but very old fashioned, very catholic on the subject of sex. Earlier I got into an argument about hubcaps on the car and how I didn't think they mattered. They told me it was a matter of pride, have pride. But I'm not naturally that proud, and how disappointed they'll be when they find out about me. This proud family... And one of "their own" having (h). I don't know how to feel accepted anymore. I don't know how I'd ever tell them.

[rules]

I understand what you mean I come from a similar family background and tell my parents is out of the question for me. Losing someone you can trust does leave a gap, I hope that you find someone whether it's on this site or someone in your life that can fill that confidant gap for you. No one should feel alone in such a situation I am here if you'd like to talk more!

[Shopgirl]

Thank you :) it helps knowing there's a community out there. Reminds me I'm not alone.

[WCSDancer2010]

@Shopgirl

 

Hello and Welcome!

 

Honey, if your family is so embroiled in their "cultural mores" that they wouldn't be able to accept and love you with a little virus (that odds are they may carry at least orally, which *could* be passed to their partners genitally) then just don't tell them ... at least not until YOU are strong enough and educated enough to not take any reaction personally.

 

I say Herpes is a great Wingman ... it shows you exactly how people are ... their ability to be empathetic and love nonjudgmentally (or not) .... and many who are in the "not" group are that way simply because of their cultural upbringing. They simply don't know better. And YOU can love them exactly as they are.... and know that you just can't/don't want to share this part of yourself with them.

 

I have to get off here (I've got a DATE!!! Whooohoo!) but these links may help you... and check out the Success Stories, just so you can see how many people find love with a discordant partner ... just so you know, it IS possible :)

 

(((HUGS)))

 

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/6070/it-gets-better great tips for newbies

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/2886/herpes-yoga-and-self-love

 

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/6801/throwing-herpes-on-top-of-ugly-my-shallow-post

 

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/6780/something-for-you-to-chew-on

 

http://projectaccept.org/who-gets-hsv/