Starting to look on the bright side:)

[Niki883]

Hi! It's been a few weeks since I've been on here but I found out I have herpes 5 months ago and I'm not going to lie when I say "it's still a shock" I was a VERY protective person as I only had sex with 2 people that I did ask them about stds and I had strong feelings for both of them so recieving a positive hsv test was shocking, surprising, and confusing!!! Like I said in my last post, my mom is my biggggggest supporter. But I am still having the feeling of waking up every morning and thinking about it everyday. I just want that feeling to go away. I wanna wake up one morning and not even think about it... I think time will do that because my biggest worries is about meeting someone accepting me now :/ the more I read about people's stories the more positive stories I find about "talks" going well. So I hope I have a good talk one day with a future partner. I do know that I have to love and accept myself before someone else can accept and love me. I have my good says and bad but I'm doing okay:)

[mr_hopp]

Yes, you nailed it: Before someone else can deeply accept you, you need to first accept yourself. It's a corny cliché for a reason: Because it's sooooo true! You going through these feelings that you wish would just go away is your way of moving through the pain and into what is. The only way the feeling will go away is once it's felt fully, without judgment, without self-shaming. The pain is signalling a shift in your psyche, your heart and your way of being. Think of it as growing pains. Sometimes pain isn't all that bad. It can mean you're getting stronger, learning and growing. Just have compassion for yourself through this phase. It will be better. Allow it to happen instead of struggling against the current.